the surrendered singles

2011-10-24T23:42:00.002+08:00

20 years, 2 people.

love this movie.

love is not about dwelling when you are hopelessly waiting.

love is being sincere no matter how idiotic your partner is.

love is about breaking rules, set restrictions, but slowly breaking free.

love is all about patience.

love is so pure when one treasure and know the true meaning of it. even if its gona take you a hundred years of wait, risk every opportunity to say how much you love or miss someone, coz u'll never know you are not able to say that to them the next morning you woke up from your sleep.

Short Afternoon Drama

2011-10-24T23:39:00.001+08:00

Boy: Well, she..

His Friend:You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?

His Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened..

.....

The End.

just sharing~

2011-10-13T10:12:00.001+08:00

REMEMBER THATTTTTTTTTTT!

It's better to be single

BUT inspired

rather than committed

BUT confused.

:)

2011-09-26T11:25:00.003+08:00

To be single is not a tragedy.

It is now becoming the trademark of a superwoman, whose eyes are focused on the highest rung of the corporate ladder. She walks tall in her self confidence and is warm, friendly and humorous.

;)

LOVE Him/ Her Just the way they are

2011-09-18T15:54:00.004+08:00

When you get to know someone, all their physical characteristics starts to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That's why you can't really fall in love with beauty or looks. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body, but not your heart. That is why when you really connect with a person, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.

Can You Date Your Gf's Ex?

2011-09-14T10:35:00.005+08:00

Can You?

Yes. Yes, of course you can date the ex-partners of your friends. Of course you can. The question should really be, is it possible to keep your friend in the process.

We've all been there. We've all had friends with failed relationships. And as good as the friendship is, sometimes that ex is just too tasty or sexy to resist. We all know there is no cut and dry answer to this dilemma. Sometimes this is do-able. And sometimes it isn't.

But when you are seeing her ex, remember how it felt to be in her shoes. One of the worst things about being dumped is that stupid feeling. And worst, is when you didn't even come to ask her personally and have the decency to ask at least, "How are you coping. I hope you are well. I heard about it".

However, it's up to you though. But here are some point factors that may want to consider when you are seeing her ex.

1. Do not get dragged into and keep asking the guy of her failed relationship.
2. Do not compare.
3. And do not ever imply that you can succeed where she failed.
4. Don't play with fire if you yourself are already in a relationship with other guy and is seeing your gf's ex coz you are messed up.

But then again.. I do think it's possible to maintain your friendship while you go out with your gf's ex. As long as you do it with care.

blog entry inspired from: Veronica Hubpages

Give a little something.

2011-09-13T01:28:00.004+08:00

#JustSharing!

Today I decide to give myself a chance,
I text a short sms to someone whom I think I should give it a shot with.
He's been there for awhile.
Years, in fact.
The last time I gave him a chance,
Or more to giving myself a chance, he almost express his love but a coward I am,
I shrug and change the topic.
I didn't feel the love but I know he's good for me.
He's all the good except that he's a little tad too cocky.
When man have everything, their confidence get a little overwhelming, you see.

But I know he got everything.

Physical: Body maut beb!
Career: I shall not go in details or people will find out who but it's awesome.
Character: I can talk to him and...

Okay now I know why it never worked out.
He got character issues,
Wait, I've got character problem as well!
LOL!
I'M SELFISH!

And so I decide to gamble my life away,
(Chey?!)
And text him!
I bet he thinks someone stole my phone and type all those.
Cause over years, I never text him first before.
Yes, I'm that an egoist!

We'll see how this goes.
Just thought of sharing with you girls.
Random things but why not?

Gotta be daring sometimes, you see!
Let's see how it goes.

You, girls should give yourself a chance as well.
Let someone in, not that I ask you to marry him.
But welcome someone in,
Make friends,
Share something.
Broaden up.
:)

I'M REJECTED, WHAT?

2011-09-10T13:13:00.003+08:00

No one loves rejection!

But you can always learn to handle it better, sort of. HA!
What I mean by handling it better is that...
You do not be a freak and text your crush a million time or keep asking him or her why things happen the way it is.
And some might want to kill themselve due to rejection.
It's just how you handle it.

Honestly, I think I'm going through this phase right now.
Thus, the sharing.
Told you, Surrendered Singles blog make me feel like I'm not alone.
I always feel better after sharing it here.

Everyone goes through rejection.
Not only in the romance department,
Be it career, schooling or even circle of friends.
But today, I'll focus on BGR, yah?
BGR: Boy Girl Relationship.
Romance department, yes!

As a guy you've worked up all the courage to ask your crush out, and she declined you politely.
Or another case would be,
Everything goes well but after a meet up, he simply keep pushing you away.

How to tell if it's a rejection to get out of their life or it's just plain coincidental that things happen the way it is.

(1) Your Gut Feelings: I'm not saying you're a magician or some psychic but when you're in love, you usually paint all the pretty pictures. Maybe you should take time to slow down everything. Take a deep breath and think rationally, evaluate everything like you're the third person looking at the situation. And you know that gut feeling, sometime it tells the truth.

(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes:
Sometimes when you're in love, admit it...you turn into a freak. This little monster that never existed until you meet this one great guy/girl you've always wanted. WHY? But that's the thing, that always happen when you're in love. UGH! Maybe you should just take time to put yourself in the other party's shoe. Damn, I've got a very good example but I can say it or I'll be busted. HA! Cause then the guy will think, he's like an experiment which obviously he's not. But any oh how, let me think of another exmple. Okay maybe you're too pushy, keep asking him to go out with you. If you're him, you'll find it annoying too right? Or you keep pushing him with intrusive question, you might sound like a freak and scare the shit outta him.
Who knows?

(3) The "always busy" excuses: You know sometimes someone is really busy or it's just an excuse.
But I know some girls/guys still cling on to the excuses.
Sometimes we've got to learn to read in between the lines.
Some people just don't know how to tell you straight: I DON'T WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU!
Take me as an example, I don't know how to say no.
I'm bad with rejection.
Thus, I always use busy as an excuse.
But this guy cling on to that excuse for years.
Since I'm in poly and up till now that I've switch job twice.
See, you need to read in between the lines.
Life always has its hidden meaning.
A is no longer A.
And B is no longer B, it can stand for Bitch or Baby.
Get it?
Me tryin' to be funny there, if you don't get it, I'm a loser!
Basically, some could really be busy and want so much to meet you but have not chance.
Or he/she is really not that into you.

(4) ASK!: Sometimes if everything else fail, look for help.
The next best thing will be your friends.
They'll help you out but don't take everything too hard cause they're not the guy/girl you like so human thinks differently.
If you need to know, you can always ask the guy/girl themselve.
Why not?
I know it takes alot of courage which I know I don't have.
But just get it over and done with.
But after knowing the truth, take it like an adult.
Do not get cranky and turn into a creepy freak.
Accept the fact and move along.
Take of of this example from one of our SS girls, she actually thought the guy she liked is avoiding her.
Thus, she thought maybe it's tim to move on.
He didn't contact her for almost a week.
Any normal human will think, maybe he's just not that into me.
Turning cold what, true?
But the two of us told her to call him.
ASK!
Then guess what?
HANDPHONE SPOIL!
So the both of them assume that the other party is not interested but the fact is,
handphone spoil.
See, sometimes assumption just kills.
But it could also be a tool to decipher hidden meanings and save you from further heartaches.
Use it wisely.
(5) Give it room and time to breath:
Love is about luck and perfect timing.
Maybe when you actually asked him or her out,
She's having an important project to do.
Or he's not having a good day.
Never rule out such cases.
I'm a negative,
I don't rule out such cases, that is.
I always take first rejection as a definite NO forever!
But I guess, I need to take time to let it breath.
Give more time to it.
You all should learn as well.
While writing this,
I learn as well.
Make me a little positive, that is.
I need it!
HA!

Any oh how, I hope this helps!
And you can drop us your comment below.
I haven't played around with it yet,
I hope I know how it works.
Thanks to Kinn for the help!
We just want to make the blog simple.
And thanks for the email.
Real sweet of all of you.
Thought Surrendered Singles are extinct.
If you still want to email us, here's the email...
surrendered_singles@live.com
Can follow us on twitter as well: Singlebabes.
Sorry if we're not that active cause everyone's busy with work.
But know that we're an avenue for you to rant and express anything.
We do not judge.
Cause you know what?
Everytime I read your email, I feel you so much.
Yesterday I read this email, I almost teared.
And I was smiling as well cause I'm so able to relate to her.
Eh same same, but I cannot be too open about it.
Cause guys might think if I date them,
I'm just using them as an experiment to write in Surrendered Singles.
And I'm also secretive like that.
But through emails, I'l like your sister and your bestfriend.
I'm more personal there.
Just sharing!
Hope you girls have a good weekends.

I know right now out there,
There's a girl being dumped and treated badly.
You know you have us.

Sparks and firework.

2011-09-09T10:43:00.002+08:00

IS THERE FIREWORK OR SPARKS?

I'm just goin' to share my dating scenes.
Just for the fun of it, that is.
I thought I don't date that much,
It always freak me out going for a date.
Cause everytime before a date,
I always feel that I'm never good enough.
Not pretty, won't be as fun as what he wants and all the insecurities just popped like wild mushrooms by the road side.
Wah Wah... I use metaphor like writing composition back in sec sch! HA!

Honestly, I never enjoy dates!
I don't really go for dates but everytime when I say so,
I'll start thinking of the dates I go out to.
Eh quite a handful.
So let's share.
Pardon me if I sound like a weirdo but sharing is caring.
And one thing I love about Surrendered Singles is that,
I will never feel that I'm alone.
There's someone out there that feels me.

About dates,
I thank god cause I don't usually get awkward dates.
Cause I can just talk with anyone and whoever and I can just blend in.
That's my plus point.
No quiet boring dates for me.
But the problem with me is that,
I get too comfortable easily.
And it might just send the wrong signal.
Either he thinks it's easy to bed me or he thinks I'm treating him like just another guy friend.
And I don't know why I always have this problem and most guys I date will say this...
"I know uh, I'm just another guy friend."
Or is it a norm for all guys to say that?

And yes, I watch details when I date.
That's creepy uh?
I may make you feel comfortable to the extend you can be yourself, and I can make you tell me all your secrets.
Not that I'll take advantage of it but I'll take notice little details like your body language, your hidden expression.
And yes, the problem with me is that I have a checklist.
I tried to dump that away but I have it mentally written on my head: WRONG!
I don't judge but can't help it.
I quit playing games though, I think.

I used to think that from the first date, you can see if someone the one.
See, I watch too much movie?!
So everytime if I go out with a guy and there's no spark, I won't want to label him boyfriend material anymore.
I'll place him in the buddies rack.
Thinking of which, I think I'm the heartless bitch.
Honestly, not proud of it.

But in life, you'll meet this one person that will change everything.
And since then my dating scene simply change.
I met him, and he walked too fast.
Like literally too fast.
Considering he's hot, I thought hw didn't like me.
Not considering that he might be nervous and to think again now, yes he is.
And no, it's not a turn off.
It's cute.
My surrounding is fill with confident, calm and gentlemen so when I see things like this, I find it interesting and attractive.
I never expect perfect dates with candle lit dinner and all that,
I just expect fun, real fun.
And you being yourself.
And he's so nervous, he's just so cute.
But me with my self-esteem issue thinks he don't like me and he didn't click inctantly with me so I thought there's nothing about us to pursue.
And guess what?
He's that one guy I can't forget till today.
We've been in contact for almost 5 years now.
Don't ask me the drama behind it all.
But I know he left an impact.

I used to be so narrow minded and too fairytale.
Talking about spark and firework.
I guess you need to make time to know someone better.
No such thing as love at first sight and all.
There is, but not everyone has that kind of story, you see.
Love can build up after years as well.
That's what happen to me.
Sometimes you thought he's just another buddy, but one fine day it just light up.

Give time for love.

Surrendered Singles REUNITE!

2011-09-08T11:52:00.004+08:00

Do you miss us? We miss you all, MORE!

We're back, yes!

2011-09-08T11:35:00.002+08:00

I'm tryin' to post Avril Lavigne song: Stop Standing There.
But FAIL!

Basically, the song is about not knowing where the bond between a girl and a boy is heading.
Its like not knowing whether you're a friend or more than that.

I guess every girl get this kind problem.
You're too shy to express your feelings, no?

Personally, if I'm stuck in such situation, I'll wait for the guy to make the first move.
But I heard youngster these days so daring uh?
Chey, I talk as if I'm some old aunty.
But my generation, most of us so shy.

The other day I was at SCAPE.
Just love to go there cause I feel young.
This guy came over and ask me,
"Hey wanna join us, it's my friend's birthday?"
I was like, WHAT?!
Bloody hell this small kid, so daring uh please.
He can be like 5 to 6 years younger than me please.
Okay maybe I look young.
But so daring uh?

Then I decline nicely, awkwardly to a 17 year old.
How can I be intimidated by a 17 year old. I'm 23, HELLO!
Then he goes with his: Oh come on, just for him. It's his birthday.

WHAT?!
Daring uh?

Another story is about drugs.
Nowadays the youngster so "cool" uh?
Take drug and fell so WOW about it.
During my time, drug was OMG!
If you're a drug addict, my mum confirm chop don't allow me to be your friend.
And everyone will look at you in a weird way.
Oh wait, maybe it's cool for some other people.
I forget, I was a nerd back in school.
HA!

Basically, I'm just writing random thoughts.
Hope there's still people reading.
Oh I write not cause I want people to read, but I just want to share.
Surrendered Singles, REUNITE!
We, girls just had a good catchin' up session yesterday.
Want to sneak peak a photo?
HA!

good life.

2011-06-29T14:42:00.002+08:00

"Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned

Mistake overturned
So I call it a lesson learned
My soul has returned
So I call it a lesson learned
Another lesson learned".

-Lesson Learned, Alicia Keys

single, not!

2011-04-25T14:24:00.002+08:00

I was waiting for my boyfriend the other day at Somerset, then 2 guys came and approach me. I think they saw me standing at the control station for quite some time. and so maybe they also thought i was waiting for a friend. sooo... they approach me. and 1 of the guy asked my number for his friend.

Guy 1: Hello, my friend yang tu nak kenal-kenal boleh?

Me: (shock cum blur face but my face got maintain lah)

Guy 1: Boleh mintak number?

Me: hmmm huh? (still blur. ok fine, action blur)

Guy 1 to Guy 2: dia tak paham ah macam mane?

Me: (question mark face. i think he thinks i bisu)

Guy 2: takpelah.. (walk away membawa hati yg pasrah.. boleh gitu? hahahaha!)

Guy 1: Sorry yah (he said and smile at me and walk away with his friend)

Then i smile to myself. hahahaha! dah lama pe org tak approach and mintak number like that in public. well yeah even when i was single back then, no one lor do that to me. coz i think last time i super ignorant and i have the "Don't talk to me if you are a stranger. Don't even bother to smile at me" like that kind of face. but i swear, i am very friendly. now biler dah ade bf, baru ade org kat public mintak number eh. hahaa! ape sajelah. of coz i don't bother lah. i think the guys think im not malay lah. takkan dorg pikir im bisu kan?? hahaha!

it's like, bila takde org nak kenal-kenal, takde teros. bila ada, lepas satu-satu datang. i realise that it does not only happen to me. but to others too. notice the pattern anot? im not sure about any of you. but ya there will be a season of time, bila ada.. hahhhh lepas satu-satu dtg balek.

Anyways, what will you do if a guy ask for your number in public? What will you do??

#1: Pretend you dont hear anything and act blur (like dats what i did. hehh)

#2: entertain him and give him a fake number

#3: ask for his' instead

#4: give him ur email address/ fb instead

#5: say: sorry, but im actually waiting for my bf (i shud have said that!! hahaha!)

#6: give him an arrogant look and bolayan (not encouraged to do this eh girls. cannot lidat!)

#7: exchange. i mean, why not, u're just widening your circle of friend.

I duno mann. there's no right or wrong way to this. i mean, there's no harm making friends. but somehow, to me lah. if you're single, for the fun of it, ask for his fb instead. hahahaha! then the rest is up to you whether u want to add him and go on to the next stage of being his friend. it's all about the instinct? you might never noe, he might be the one ure looking for? jodoh tak kemana kan? hehee..

Happy Monday blues everyone!
Will try and update the blog more yeah!

xoxo,
kin

hold on tight!

2011-04-08T10:20:00.004+08:00

"I guess, if anything, it’s about taking chances, even when you think you’re all out of chances. It’s about giving forgiveness and unconditional love, even when it seems like you should only do the opposite. It’s about trusting that God puts people in your life at certain times so that you can capitalize on the opportunity. It’s all about the possibility. It’s all about what you do with those possibilities. Life is short, but it moves so fast. Hang on and enjoy the ride. And when someone comes along with whom you enjoy spending the ride with; hold on tight."

- Samantha Mott

what are words

2011-03-07T13:40:00.003+08:00

This song was on a repeat mode for the past few hours. Such a sad song based on a true life story of Chris Medina. I'm sure many of us already knew who he is now. Such an awesome man.

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

Anytime you whisper my name, you'll see

How every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

And I know an angel was sent just for me

And I know I'm meant to be where I am

And I'm gonna be

Standing right beside her tonight

And I'm gonna be by your side

I would never leave when she needs me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

And I'm gonna be here forever more

Every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

I'm forever keeping my angel close

--------------------------

there are still many good guys around. girls, stop complaining or saying that u r giving up on love coz there's no more such guys in this world. okay maybe not a lot, but im sure there's always a soft spot in every guy's heart. and to have someone like Chris Medina in your life, is truly a blessing. His fiancee is the most luckiest lady in this world. indeed love is about accepting and sticking through each other's side come what may. and i know it's so hard to find. can't deny. but well, must never stop believing. :)

and this also apply to our daily life. always say what you mean, mean what you say. love is not always about the good times. and never leave someone when that's the moment of time when he/she need you the most.

anyway, happy working everyone!
much love,
kin.

Am I alone?

2011-02-28T03:20:00.002+08:00

Dear Singlerette,

I love this blog alot.

You want to know why?

Cause everytime I feel sad regarding love,

When I read or write for Surrendered Singles Blog,

I won't feel alone.

I know someone out there is feeling me too.

Blame my screwed up body clock.

I wish it's Saturday today so that everyone is hyped up.

But Sunday, everyone is forcing themselve to sleep for workin' Monday!

While right now, I'm wide awake and I can't sleep.

What am I suppose to do at this hour?

Squeeze my blackhead?

Watch DVD?

Tonight, I feel lonely.

Knowing who I am,

I'm usually occupied with so many things,

And I have lots of company but tonight,

I simply feel lonely.

A boyfriend will make a good use,

But sadly I'M SINGLE.

At some point of time,

You just need that man to comfort you.

Shower you with love and warm, no?

I've been fooling around alot.

Attracting all the wrong man, but they're hot.

(LOL!)

What's hot, right?

At the end of the day,

I need someone that trully loves me for who I am,

The one that will stick by till the end,

Not the play around for fun kind, you see.

And to know that great guy is actually your close buddy,

Worst still he's actually starting to date someone else,

HOW MORE PATHETIC CAN LIFE BE?

Being surrounded by boys is no big deal,

Being with the one that trully loves you is THE BIG DEAL.

It's very hard to find a guy that trully loves you.

Like ONLY love you.

Some just wants sex out of it,

Some wants money and blah blah...

Oh I feel down to the ground now.

But on a positive note,

Let's look up to other better things that I've acquired.

Then again, LOVE plays a big role in a girl's life...

NO?

Sayang Sayang.

2011-01-26T15:15:00.003+08:00

HELLO SINGLE LADIES!

How you've all been?

I'm just here for a short one,

To all those singlerette that woke up feeling shitty,

Please Please...know that you're not alone.

Cause I felt the exact feeling last 2 days.

I feel like what I dream for is not what I really want.

Have you ever felt that way?

You chase for someting all your life,

You got it and you suddenly feel,

This is not what I want.

But worry not,

That's what I tell myself.

It's a phase in everyone's life.

Self-comforting much.

I'll give myself more time and you all should to.

Give yourself another chance.

And don't be too hard on yourself.

Self-advice much.

HA!

You're not alone, Dear.

I'm feeling the same way too.

And while you're focus chasing after your dream,

At the end of the day, you know you need someone.

Sometimes, you miss having that man that will be there.

But you know what?

THAT'S A GOOD REALIZATION!

You can't be independent and alone all your life.

Realization uh!

Must settle down one day.

Cannot be self-centered and live life alone.

MUST GET MARRIED!

HA! HA! HA!

Take time to loosen up a little.

Self-advice again.

Any oh how,

I have my bestfriend for now.

They're amazing, don't you think so?

How come friends can ligten your burden like magic?

COOOOOL EH?

Any oh how,

Dear Singlerette...

Know that you're not alone.

It's alright to just sit down there and cry your heart out.

Never ever forget,

We're human, We're a woman,

We fail and we cry our heart and sometimes feel like giving up.

It's alright to make mistake.

But don't let this goes to waste.

Stand up, chin up, walk on.

It makes you stronger.

Easier said than done, I know.

Cause I'm experiencing it now.

But let's give it a try, shall we?

Come, give me a hug!

If you don't need it, I need it.

Sayang sayang.

You DON'T NEED A Boyfriend To Feel Good!

2011-01-14T14:13:00.003+08:00

You DON'T NEED A Boyfriend To Feel Good!

HAHAHA! dis guy above is damn funny! enjoy watching it guys! my colleague showed me the video and i burst out laughing while watching this. hahha! but 1 thing i hafta agree, You DON'T NEED A Boyfriend To Feel Good!!

love, kin.

Happy New Year 2011!

2011-01-05T15:31:00.005+08:00

So ladies and gentlemen! It's the NEW YEAR already! Happy 2011 to all the readers. Don't think there are anymore readers who read this dusty anak daras punye blog. Boohooo. hehee. anyway i'm back for a rant! hehee..

2010. it's just like any other year for most of us. but surrendered singles felt very honoured to be invited to be covered in the Sutra Magazine. if you can still remember lah. hehee. like paisey also coz we are shy girls u noe *hahahaha*

nahh. tadaaa!

oh wells. let's leave 2010 sweet memories and let's now create a new memory for 2011! if you are waiting for a day to start things all over from ground zero, this is the perfect month! the start of something new!

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I realise, as i grow older, whatever my mama or papa said, is right. their advices are the best. the only problem is, they tend to nag and drag when they give you useful advices when the topic is about love and sex! this can be applied to anyone who is in a relationship also lah. not only for the single ones.

Like for example.

Advice #1: "Don't call the guy-play hard to get."

or in malay people say,"Jual mahal." hehehe..

I think in someway or another, it's true. A guy get challenged when you treat them that way. IF the guy is really interested in you lah. Coz then you will know if he is really into you or just plain infatuation. But notice that my parents always reminded me to not play around too much. Coz he'll get tired of it and that will change his impression on you. He might think that you-are-mana-nye-big-shot-je-nak-step-jual-mahal. hahaha!

Advice #2: "Always have a stash of your own hard earn money."

or in malay people say,"Jangan nak harapkan duit org lelaki je."

Inilah pesan org-org tua. girls nowadays dah tak macam dulu-dulu lagi. we should be independent. have a career so that when you are in a relationship, and if anything bad were to happen, you get to save your butt financially. mama always tell me jangan makan budi org sangat. jgn susah kan org. nanti bila dah biasa, apa-apa terjadi, you will fall flat on the ground with nothing to support you. so yes, kena ada savings sendiri!

Advice #3: "Don't need to marry pilot, lawyer, or doctor.

they won't have time for you."or in malay

people say, "cari org yang sederhana.

hidup ni biar sederhana."

It's true. sekarang semua org nak pangkat tinggi. nak gaji tinggi. oklah i understand. the standard of living in singapore is very high. but then again, if we know how to compromise and share financial decisions, im sure things will be okay? maybe yes? no? haha up to individual lah k. yg penting kena cari org yg pandai layan and pandai mengambil hati anda ye...

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so betol tak cakap org tua. ada part boleh agree ade part susah nak agree. but these are the few advices that my parents always remind me. kadang-kadang kata-kata org tua ni ada berkat nye kalau kita ikotkan. hehee.. anyway, till then! i'll blog more when i have more ideas!

love, kin.

Unwritten rule?

2010-12-05T11:26:00.003+08:00

Hello Singlerettes!

It's been a long time, isn't it?

How are all of you doin'?

I'm just here to randomly talk,

It's about girls dating their own good girlfriend's exbf.

It's like an unwritten rule, ain't it?

What's your take on it?

And do you mind your exbf dating your good girlfriend?

Or do you care to date you good girlfriend's exbf?

Just something all of you can discuss and think about.

=============

From the 3 of us,

We all hope you all are doing fine.

For me, my love life is mundane.

HA! HA! HA!

I'm too busy with my work now.

Too tired to even flirt.

(LOL!)

And no phone calls after work cause I'm to sleepy when I'm back.

While texting at work is no where possible with how occupied I am.

Hmmm, what say dating a colleague?

SAFE TIME, RIGHT?

Dating at work.

Just kiddin'!

Have a Good Sunday, Love!

happy december!

2010-12-03T10:15:00.004+08:00

hey all. we are sorry if we haven been updating the blog for quite some time. all 3 are currently busy with their work commitment. we will keep sharing more topics in time to come okay? do email us if you need any help or if u have any ideas on what topic we shud talk about. :)

hope everyone is doing well. email us okay? and hey if you're feeling down after a break up, cry as much as you want. no one can understand the situation you are going through so much better than you. and remember, "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again. This time, more intelligently. -Henry Ford".

Cheers to happy and smiley faces.

Get your back up if you're at ground zero.

come on girls, there's so much more to life!

xoxo!

:)

2010-11-09T16:47:00.003+08:00

Hi single or not so single ladies!

How's everyone doing??

I hope everyone is doing just fine.

Remember the keyword: Life goes on!

Be and get excited! It's coming to the end of the year!

Party here and there. Party hard, party smart yeah?

Zoom off for a short getaway trip!

Even if it's JB, go have fun!

Have you fulfill all your 2010 resolutions?

If not, better do it fast!

Smile always, and the world will smile with you too.

lots of love,

kinn.

Are you for REAL?

2010-10-22T17:33:00.003+08:00

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A GUY IS A REAL...

GENTLEMEN?

Personally,

I'm the kind of girl who rarely trust a man.

And usually my instinct is always right.

Until of course, when you find your match...

Errr, more that I found someone of a better capability to deceive my instinct.

I say he's a perfect jerk!

A friend of mine told me,

He didn't played the game long enough cause

he know you have a blog that appear on the mags,

And you're too smart for him.

You can always blackmail him to publish your story and post his photos.

I say I don't waste my time on thrash.

I know he's capable of making up stories.

What's new when guys a sore loser,

They'll say they dumped you and you weren't good enough.

Or worst still, claim that he've used you.

HOW TYPICAL.

I say, just ignore and lead your own life.

Don't bother to look into it.

I know not everyone is as ignorant as I am.

But do yourself a favour.

LET IT BE.

Letting go takes a little longer time,

But let it be is slightly more possible to be done right now as we talk.

If you know he's a mess,

Why bother waste your time on him?

When you see he plays his trick on other girls,

Tell yourself...

LUCKY I'M SAVED NOW.

LUCKY! I found out.

Don't be a freak and stalk the other girl and start trying to play miss nice.

JUST IGNORE!

Too bad that the new girl is the new target.

Afterall, don't be in-denial,

Inside you're all broken.

You're actually envious.

You feel really sad that he played the same trick on other girls.

You thought he's really sweet until you know:

DAYMN, He did it to every other girl.

Don't brag and curse,

Instead THANK GOD you found out!

Takes time for the reality to sips in.

Painful as hell,

But lesson as heaven.

Sometimes, it's scary isn't it?

You don't know which to trust.

Oh heck,

I say love is crazy.

It's like taking a risk.

I love my girls!

2010-10-19T11:07:00.003+08:00

I'M SO PROUD OF MY GIRL!

I know I haven't been spending much time with you, both.

But I'm so proud of the both of you.

Kinn is doin' well with her boyfriend,

Which I'm so happy for.

And I'm so proud of Zah cause it's her 3rd graduation now.

Look how far you've gone.

Kinn is so wise, she deserve a pat on her back.

While my Zah is so strong.

Korang dua,

WE'VE GROWN!

Look how we used to handle things back then as compared to now.

WE ALL DESERVE A PAT ON THE BACK.

Honestly, I'm sad that I wasn't at Zah's graduation.

Everytime I'm there every year,

It brings goosebump.

Cause it's like a reminder how the 3 of us have evolved.

And girls, I have good news to share.

Please meet up.

Please! Please! Please!

I LOVE YOU, 3!

Significant person in my life, know that.

With Love, Surrendered (not so!) Singles.

2010-10-10T12:29:00.002+08:00

WE LOVE YOU!

$$$ make the world go round?

2010-10-06T02:18:00.002+08:00

HELLO SINGLERETTES!

(Or the not so single too.)

I've nothing particular in mind now.

Just watched a malay movie: Pisau Cukur.

MONEY!

STATUS!

Is that what all girls look for?

Personally as a girl myself,

I do look for that.

Not exactly status but money is a major YES.

But then again to the boys,

Don't get too excited if you're rich enough.

And to the not so rich ones,

Don't run under you mom's armpit just yet.

Cause other that financial stability girls look for other aspects as well.

SECURITY.

Emotionally, financially and physically.

Girls need to know that you will always be there.

And she's the only girl in your heart.

Of course, other than you grandmama, mama and sissyter.

And like durh, she wants you close if possible and again financial security too.

Either way, money is important but maybe for some girls the percentage varies.

Some may need emotional security more than the rest,

Or vice versa.

============

Talking about financial support.

I'm still a young girl.

I'm 22.

I'm not open to marriage preparation or anything along that line.

Or maybe all this while I'm just plain ignorant.

But once recently,

I met a guy that work really hard for his marriage preparation.

Financially, that is.

He took OT, work extra hard.

Seek advise from senior how to manage his cash.

God, how sweet can that be?

Discuss about decor, food and blah blah...

I just think it's adorable when boys seriously think about marriage.

Oh money money make the world go round.

It's already 2.30am.

I think I should sleep now.

To the single girls who's going to get married soon:

ENJOY THE PLANNING!

Don't get too uptight and expect lesser so everything will be above the expectation.

Don't forget to have fun while you're on it.

Burnin'...

2010-09-28T19:12:00.002+08:00

Project 101: Burning the Bridge.

So how do you girls doing with the burnin'?
I hope everyone is coping well with me.

If you need more love and warmth,
Email us @ surrendered_singles@live.com

So I've been coping rather well.
And why is that so?

DISTRACTION.

How it works?
It actually source out your attention away from him.
The past, the one you want to burn.

How do you do it?
In my case,
I distract myself with my dream.
The things I never dare to do, I do.
Cause what's more painful than another failure.
I'm determine to make this work cause I don't want another failure.
I tried, and I got it.
One of my dream almost gonna come true.

You can try too.

Source out that energy.
Do something to distract yourself.

Maybe start goin' to the gym.
I'm planning to go one of these days.
To spice it all up,
Go with someone you find hot or anything.
I'm planning to go with this guyfriend of mine,
Cause I think he got hot arms.
That's effing random,
But why not?

Now Rule No. 04:
DISTRACT YOURSELF.

HAPPY TRYIN' SUNSHINE!

Burn it yet?

2010-09-24T01:29:00.003+08:00

Project 101: Burning the Bridge. (UPDATES!)

Just in case,

You girls have read the previous entry and motivated to try some of my suggestions..

How things goin' on honey?

Guess what happen to mine?

I got myself burnt instead,

I contacted him back again.

WHY?

Cause I need a clear explanation to the matters before I walk off.

And you girls can do so too.

Depend on the situation, of course.

But Rule No. (02) Don't stoop too low and hurt your pride.

Rule No. (03) Don't be pushy.

You need to be clear that you've tried your very best.

So that you know there's really nothing that can be helped between you both.

So you can leave and burnt everything peacefully.

No rush, think before you act.

And cause this will be the last time you clear matters,

You should do it in style.

And something that you'll never regret.

I've done my part.

Cannot deny the fact that along the way,

The girl cried.

Hurt like mad, please thank you.

BIG HUG!

I'm going to walk this slowly.

I know this might sound like a sore loser,

But if it helps you...why not?

I'm deleting him off my facebook list.

Cause a freak, I am.

Or maybe everyone else is as freak as I am but won't want to admit,

You'll check his profile 24/7.

You want to move on,

Remember Rule No. (01):

Everything got to do with him, got to GO.

Happy Trying!

I know I make this sound like some experiment.

Just cause I make it sound easy,

That does not mean,

I'm good at getting over a guy.

I make it sound easy so that I'll be a supportive girlfriend to all of you.

You won't know how it hurts in here, I swear.

Ergh, nah every heartbreak has it fair share of pain.

We're on the same boat, Honeys.

Let's hold hand and make this less painful, shall we?

Are you crying like a baby now like I do?

*Sayang Sayang*

We'll find happiness soon.

God has a plan for everything,

Never doubt it. ♥

How's Raya Visiting?

2010-09-23T11:37:00.004+08:00

Whether it bothers you, me or anyone...I don't know.

But let's just discuss it since I'm awake early today before work.

I CAN'T JUST LET THIS BLOG COVERED WITH DUST, RIGHT?

First and foremost,

SELAMAT HARI RAYA!

From the 3 of us.

I'm very bad with Hari Raya greeting so try to put up with it.

I always end up crying even before I seek for forgiveness, so pardon me.

Maaf Zahir dan batin if any of us do offend any of you intentionally or unintentionally.

To all the guys out there,

We might hurt your ego, we're sincerely sorry.

And to all the girls that got hurt my our harsh words sometimes,

We meant well cause a hrad knock will help you wake up.

We're sorry if we pose like REM, yes the hate tag.

That's cute but we're sorry if anything we do offend anyone in any ways.

If you're seeking for duit raya,

You can kindly queue up at Kinn's & Zah's place.

They're rich people,

Can ask their address from me.

I'm more than willing to share.

I'm (Icka) still 17 so I'm still carrying a big handbag with pockets on my baju raya,

Still doing Raya Collection Loh!

While I'm on makcik-makcik rantings,

You can all view the photos.

Frequent questions you get when you're on Raya Visiting:

When you're almost graduating,

Makciks will ask: DAH HABIS SEKOLAH?

Makciks, do you know that it stress us when you ask that?

We have an exam to study and here we are beraya-ing.

Don't reminf us, please.

When you've graduated: DAH KERJA?

Dear Makciks, Do you know it's hard to find jobs these days?

Not only you keep asking me this but my whole family do.

Enough of nagging from mum at home, now you?

STRESSS!

When you've got a job: DAH ADA BOYFRIEND?

Wah seh, dahlah aku sorang je yang single mingle in the family,

Must stress me that I'm tak laku meh?

Then they'll go on and on making you blush.

"Cik ada calon-calon tau."

Makciks on matchmaking service 101! What's new?

When you already have a boyfriend: BILA NAK KAHWIN?
Another 101 stress situation.

WAAHHH, this part don't know what to comment.

And then when you married: BILA NAK ADA ANAK?

Let say, if she can't give birth?

Have you spare a thought, makciks?

Or do you know there's such things as FAMILY PLANNING?

And when you already have a child: PSLE DAPAT BERAPA POINT?

Aiseyman, kalau anak nya ada kurang pandai.

Tak stress?

Mak encik...Mak encik...

When your son grows older: ANAK KAU DAH ADA GF EH? NAMPAK KELMARIN DEKAT 7ELEVEN.

Mak Encik...Mak Encik...

This is random, but as a child do know how to take care of your family's reputation.

Remember how you can easily tarnish your parent's good name.

And of course,

I'm not putting all the blame on Mak Enciks,

Sometimes they're just out to start off a topic.

But Mak ciks,

I rather you start off a topic like this:

(1) Dah makan?

(2) Baru balik kerja?

(3) Wah baju raya tempah ke? Lawa lah.

(4) Dah berapa banyak rumah pergi?

Errrm, actually there's no use suggesting cause

they'll end up talking about the same old Raya Questions!

The one I listed above with red fonts.

HAAAA! HAAA! HAAA!

LIVE WITH IT!
That's the Raya Culture,
You'll never know you'll miss it after the culture's gone.

So makciks,
Keep asking and stress our generations!
HA! HA! HA!

That's all for now.

May you have a blissful day ahead, Love.

Project 101: Burning the bridge.

2010-09-23T10:50:00.004+08:00

Project 101: Burning The Bridge.

I don't care what your reasons are to burn the bridge,

But if you decide to forget someone...

COME JOIN ME ON MY SCOOTER!

(Pssst, not mine. Aksyen only!)

If there's not enough seats,

You can stroll...alright?

"Pelan-Pelan Kayuh."

Gettin' over someone you used to love is hard,

Worst still if you still love him.

Your brain says: I WANT TO LET GO.

But the heart says: I STILL WANT TO BE HERE.

Honestly, we always keep our readers close to us.

Like OUR OWN GIRLFRIENDS/SISTERS!

So here I am with you walking this together.

No, it's not going to be easy.

I'm in this with all of you,

Cause I'm close to being a heartbroken-hati remuk sudah pecah liao!

This entry is not for us to brag about what happen,

Neither is it to gain attention nor sympathy.

When you're here reading this,

You're ready to let go.

TO BURN THE BRIDGE...as said from the starting.

I'm the kind of person that rarely falls.

Even if you put Taufik Batisah infront of me,

I'll shriek but I won't fall.

But when I do, I'll fall deep.

I guess there's many out there like me.

HIGH 5!

Because of that it freaks me out when I'm falling.

I decide to just give it a go,

Since I've been single for too long.

And the sis-in-law told me,

You should seriously think about boyfriend when you're 23.

I looked like I don't give a huu hee about it,

But secretly I do.

And if you don't go for it,

How do you know?

I accepted the guy for who he is,

But shit happens along the way.

And again, I'm not going to blame anyone.

Like I've said,

This is not about it.

It's about getting over, remember?

So the flow will go like all of yours,

Just that I PRETEND that I'm fine.

When the EGO starts to speak,

It gives out alot of pretentious lies, agree?

I start finding other distractions.

Try to date and try to FORGET!

But nothing seems to work.

And again, you will visit his site a million of times.

Reading in between the so called lines on every shout out he wrote.

GIRLS, WAKE UP!

Yes, including me WAKE UP!

Rule No. (01) when you decide to forget him.

Anything that remind you of him got to go!

Today, I started of with my cellphone.

I deleted the past messages and his contact out of my list.

There's more photos and all,

But there's no need to rush.

SLOW & STEADY.

Don't do it and regret it,

And it makes you think of him even more.

You do it step by step and let it burn slowly.

No rush, No pressure, Nothing.

Do it on your own will.

Don't stress yourself with the rest,

Just focus on what you think you can do.

Bit by bit, okay?

I hope there's a continuation to this entry cause like I've said,

We'll walk this together.

I'm not strong, girls.

I need you all, that's why I'm here writing this.

You all give me strength.

No regrets.

He taught me a valuable lessons,

I hope yours did the same thing too.

Hurt like mad.

But we'll take this slow and steady.

We'll all be fine, yes?

Sneak Peak of this year raya.

2010-09-20T18:45:00.002+08:00

Friends are the family members we choose.

They bring joy and laughter in our life.

Singlerettes, you're not alone.

Will share more photos soon.

HAVE A GOOD ONE, LOVE!

Lastly,

Do send us views on LOVE & MONEY!

Anything got to do with it.

Can send it through:

surrendered_singles.live.com

Through our individual emails/FB message.

Blowin' you truckloads of kisses.

Selamat Hari Raya!

2010-09-16T14:28:00.005+08:00

Hey all! Selamat Hari Raya to all our readers. How's Hari Raya this year for you this year? Eat alot? Drink too much F&N? hahaha!!

On behalf of the other 2, i would like to take the opportunity to minta maaf zahir dan batin for any wrongdoing the 3 of us have done to any of you. Who knows right sape-sape yang terasa ke time baca ni blog. hehee.. sorry banyak-banyak!

Ampunkan kami ye! Hehe... Anyway, kin here. I really miss the 2 of them lah! Im so sorry if surrendered singles.blogspot.com is abit stagnant lately. excuse us ladies and gentlemen, we will try to update more often with more hot and sizzling story yeah?!

Enjoy your raya people! It's only the 1st week of raya and the mood is dead right? Well, i can't wait to meet my friends for raya visiting this weekend. Hopefully this makcik atikah can make it!

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri everyone!!!

a stop by.

2010-09-13T16:56:00.003+08:00

Pertemuan, ajal dan jodoh ditangan Tuhan. Jika hitam kataNya hitam juga hasilnya. Kita tidak menolak apa jua yang Dia berikan kerana sesungguhnya hanya Dia yang Maha mengetuhui.

-Epilog Syurga Cinta

THINQ TUITION.

2010-08-31T00:47:00.004+08:00

HELLO SINGLERETTE!

What makes a perfect girl to me?

Errm, not only a girl is pretty inside out...

She've got to have brain as well.

Not like I'm asking all of you to be perfect,

No one is but hey, anything close to perfection is sugaa sweet, no?

I shall cut down on my blabbering and get straight to the point.

I bet there's a lot of you taking your O levels this year.

WHO WANTS TO BE COOL?

Like those cool phrase like:

I'm not only pretty but I have brain.

(Macam dang cool right when you can say that! LOL!)

You're growing pimples on your face and

you're stressing your mind out!

COME COME,

*Sayang Sayang*

Worry not,

Now we have THINQ Tuition on your doorstep.

It helps prepare you for your BIG O.

BIG O sound scary?

----

Let this superwoman

teach you how to handle it!

Yes, not only you can master your English Olevels paper.

You'll get to oogle at gorgeous teachers as well.

Trust me,

Your tuitors are attractive enough,

Even boring english can turn into some fun class.

And they're both smart girls.

Let's not get too boring over here.

I shall share a little.

So that's my primary school friend, Filzah.

I've always thought she's a smart girl and she have brain.

And she's a kind hearted girl.

Nice people deserve nice things.

Thus, I decide to publicise her tuition service for her.

At a young age, she accomplish so much.

So proud of you, babe!

So what you're waiting for?

Come join!

You can visit the website to know more about it!

thinqtuition.wordpress.com

When you're in doubt.

2010-08-27T15:33:00.003+08:00

As we've said before,

This blog is not only for Singles.

I bet there's girls that's been single for over a decade,

And now, they're attached.

You get used to your single life, don't you?

Man, please give her time.

She will do things that will hurt you,

But give her more time.

Time to adapt to her new lifestyle.

Trust me, when a girl decide to truthfully commit,

She'll try to make her man the happiest.

Honestly,

I have my times when I'm in doubt of the man I love.

Like when you sent him a long text expecting him to assure you,

He'll reply you a short "Okay."

When he's out with his buddies,

He totally ignores you.

Even after his soccer match,

He don't even bother to text you.

You just feel that he don't love you as much.

Or he's just not serious about you.

Some singlerettes that just got attached might feel that way.

Since you've been skeptical about relationship for long,

You might be doubtful of him.

But Dear Kinn actually shared with me this,

It's soothing after reading it.

I thought it might help those that's in the same boat as me,

So read on...

http://idareyoutoclickthis.tumblr.com/post/986203128

Got it from the above page.
You can check it out!

I hope it helps you all, as much as it helps me.

With Love,
Icka & The Surrendered Singles.

Chasing and catching.

2010-08-27T14:57:00.003+08:00

WHAT SAY YOU BROWN COW?

I miss you all!

Are you missing us as much?

I'm reading the messages through our Inbox.

And then this one caught my eye,

It's really cute cause undeniably,

I've been through this before.

You have a crush on a guy and it happen,

He message you through FB.

Then you'll shrieked and since then,

FB will be your bestfriend.

You'll check your inbox 24/7!

HAAA! HAAA! HAAAA!

And then the guy pass you his number.

Boys, if you like a girl...

Please be nice enough,

To ask for her's instead.

Cause there's 3 group of girls.

(1) The one that will just ignore your message cause she's not interested.

(2) The one that will excitedly text you.

(3) The one that will think too much, nothing wrong! Cause we're girls, it's normal.

The type (3).

Why they think too much?

They don't want to appear needy.

Girls shouldn't make the first move.

Don't call them narrow or old fashion.

HELLO, You can't help it but to accept it.

Most girl still believe in:

BOYS SHOULD MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.

Make life easier just be a gentlemen, will you?

That if you like the girl, of course.

But girls, don't be dissapointed if he don't.

You can try as well, why not?

TRYING is not only for boys.

Girls can TRY too, no?

A simple HELLO will do, yes?

What say you brown cow?

What will you do?

If I am put in the position,

If a guy pass me his number and asked me to text him.

I'll go,

"Mine is 896589768."

He better be smart enough to text me instead.

Sometime less is more, no?

HAPPY COURTING, SINGLERETTES!

So fun, enjoy the chasing and catching!

With Love,

Icka & Surrendered (not so) Singles!

We're still alive! hehee..

2010-08-26T13:23:00.005+08:00

(picture above is irrelevant to quote below. hehehe.. i just feel like putting up our pics. hehee)

“ Be thankful for every heartbreak, for they were planned. They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life. And you do. ”

just sharing~~

2010-07-28T13:36:00.004+08:00

Just sharing~~

Girls, what say you?

2010-07-26T11:38:00.000+08:00

HOW HAVE YOU ALL BEEN, SINGLERETTE?

I got this Apps from my phone.

It's damn WAAHHH!

It's 100 things you need to know about girl.

Above is so true.

Girls think too much, trust me.

When you don't call,

We'll think of all the wild.

We'll think you're out with your exgf.

Your boys are flirting with other girls and you're joining them.

You find us a nuisance.

LOL!

This part is so true.

When we, girls meet up..

We can talk about the guy we like for hours.

We'll secretly stalk you.

If you have a FB or anything,

We, girls will browse through it.

HA! HA! HA!

Hmm, so true.

At the end of the day,

Girls will be girls.

We love to be chased.

Not the other way round.

YES!

And girls are you guilty for shrieking or showing your girls the celly,

when his name appear?

But when you picked up the call,

You sound like you don't care.

HA! HA! HA!

And I do load the 100 things I need to know about guys.

Will post it up and boys, tell me if it's true...

Hope it helps.

2010-07-20T11:36:00.001+08:00

This keeps me going.
:)

Understand the lyrics, it's helpful.

With Love,
Icka.

Story from our Fellow Girlfriend!

2010-07-20T10:35:00.006+08:00

HELLO SINGLERETTES!

Or just some aliens that happen to drop by.

Recruit Atikah report on duty.

What's with me and NS shit?

I'm still in the midst of reading emails from the kind hearted sweet people.

One of the email talks around NS boyfriend.

So yeah, I'm just random.

You all are just too sweet, really.

We're all really touched by the emails.

Thanks for trusting us.

We'll try to be a good girlfriends as well, yeah?

But we're kinda busy with work but worry not,

We'll always be near to the heart.

Walawei, I damn cheesy please.

Don't kill me lah!

This is one of the emails we got that actually made me teared.

Cause I feel her so much.

It's like I share the same feeling and BINGO,

This lady over here who's first I called Kakak and now,

She naik pangkat to makcik.

(LOL!)

It's worth the read.

Go on, check it out.

I add up photos cause like I've said,

I'm random like that.

Have a good read!

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I'm not sure if its a smart thing to publicise one's particular status on a social network site. Because people will be curious to know why one go from "married/engaged/in the relationship" to "single/widowed" (vice versa) or the mysterious ones that let others play with their "curiosity" will choose "It's complicated" (ya, neither separated or together). I couldn't find a status that reflects my state of self/mind.

It would be easier if they have a variety of status-es to choose from like: 'single and not interested'/'single and cynical'/'single and hoping'/'single and still soul-searching'/'single and commitment phobe'/'single and broken-hearted.' So I chose not to have any status at all. I am a woman, maybe a free woman perhaps for now.

Because of my status as a single woman, some friends believe I'm in dire need of self re-invention. Believing in love part II and how would they address this, try going on dates for the search of the ONE. I have technically lost the ONE. But because I'm a believer of self-improvement, this sanity restoration process is vital and it has to work within me. No dates. No new applications. Nothing. And I'm no longer 17, telling me I'm gorgeous or hot won't work because at 25, trust me - gorgeous and hot couldn't save relationships sometimes.

The 'altered' life from having to rely on someone to practically doing stuffs on your own may take time to sink in. Take today for example, my craving for 'Geylang cendol' is so bad and if you are in a relationship, this is what you normally do - "take your phone, text 'I cam nak makan ni la bie'" and your knight in shining armor will help you in satisfying your cravings (oh well, probably not all the time).

I'm glad I have my Bieber (dating my car more than usual), I took off alone to Geylang, went for a short nap in Bieber, ate and observed people around me. And it drilled into my head, this is it - this is what you wanted. Live with it. And sanity restoration Day 1 was pretty cool. Being alone maybe not so bad afterall. (At least for now, I could get used to this).

Why we chose singlehood

My friends, bless their single souls, have always been there for me. And tonight I had to randomly asked, "Okay now,what's so good about being single?"

"Freedom to just do whatever you like."

Molly my crazy friend thinks that singlehood doesn't disturb your "masturbating time" (I choked on this). And that you can try a million outfits before going out and no one tells you how neurotic you are. You can save money on dutch, birthday and anniversaries. You can fart, snore, be fat, wet your bed, mess up your room and no one would care.

On a serious note, a good friend of mine who recently lost her father thinks single hood is best because she likes spending time with her mum and if she has other commitment, quality time with Mum is cut short. And being a jeans and t-shirt person that she is, she wouldn't have to worry about dressing up when she goes out.

And then of course there's the usual catch, according to a good friend that if you are single you are free to date anyone.

Of course, there is a pause. Nothing in life is too good to be true. It has its ups. It has its downs. And probably for us to embrace single hood in such a nonchalant manner would be seen differently from people in relationships. And the biggest headache, what would society think of us (or at least if we care about what our parents think of us). Never mind society, whether you are single, married, divorced - people will talk anyway.

We know deep down our parents' hearts, its a wish for them to see us happily building a family. It is after all required and encouraged in our religion -

”Dan di antara tanda-tanda kekuasaan-Nya ialah dia menciptakan untuk kalian dari anfus (jiwa-jiwa) kalian sendiri, azwaj (pasangan hidup), supaya kalian ber-sakinah kepadanya dan dijadikan-Nya diantara kalian mawaddah dan rahmah. Sesungguhnya pada yang demikian itu benar-benar terdapat tanda-tanda bagi kaum yang berfikir.” (Q.S. Ar-Ruum : 21)

And its a nagging feeling, are we then going against our parents or religion for our current refusal to settle down?

I can understand our parents worries. Mak is often concern with how I will be when I'm old. Do you have someone to take care of you? What if you fall sick? I told Mak, "I am prepare to enrol myself in rumah orang tua if my job didn't warrant me a place in Institute of Mental Health, that is." And Mak while attempting her 'sex education talk' with me, "Won't you get lonely?" Oh well Mak, I will get used to sleeping with my Doraemon!

Plus by not wanting to settle down, we have dashed our parents' hope to what they called "timang cucu." I told Mak, it would be fun to have another younger brother/sister, which of course was received by instant glare of Mak and a cheeky grin from Abah.

A lot of things we are not sure about, we leave it to destiny. And again I'm not so sure if its a superficial crutch to make us seem less lazy about putting in effort. We let ourselves go with the attitude, come what may. Again, its a battle of overcoming the powerful question "what if?". I may get lonely walking
down Orchard road and hibernating in Borders but if it makes me happy, I'd take it. And maybe some of us are made to just be guardians of 'unwanted babies.' Or that our time should be utilized doing charity work. Or that we are that selfish to just be with ourselves at this moment.

But whatever it is, I believe in 'as long as it makes you happy.'

(Can't help it, I need to put this shot! HAPPY STRAWBERRY!)

So to all my single ladies, single mums, happily married wives/mums friends, here's a toast to the road of relationship you chose.

Stay happy.

Even if you technically have to sleep with err, Doraemon and a bunch of monkey toys. Hehehe.

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I hope you all have a good read.

If you want to share your stories with us or need an open advise from everyone else,

Do email us @ surrendered_singles@live.com

And to those who've sent us sweet emails,

Thank you so much.

We're so grateful to have you all close.

It's like sharing love!

YAYYYY!

Will try to reply and share the stories soon.

Work's been occupying my time alot.

Just want to give this shout out to my workmate,

I LOVE MY TEAM CHARLIE!

(LOL!)

They're so cute, please.

I was on holiday with my team to Batam.

And one of them brought along Sutra.

I shy ah so I didn't tell my friend about it.

And they were making fun of me.

Wah seh, I very the segan you know.

But thanks for not being judgemental,

I very nice girl one.

Don't whack me hor.

I'm not a love guru,

Just a girlfriend to be there for fellow heartbroken.

-BIG HUG!-

And Dear My Fellow Surrendered Singles,

Zah & Kinn...

I miss you both.

Glad that this blog ties us tight.

Pat on the back for us.

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TAG REPLY!

20 Jul 10, 11:02
TSS>>Ash: LOL! Kpo lama-lama pun takpe! HAAA!

20 Jul 10, 11:01
TSS>>Zak: Hey thank you so much, Zak! Glad you like it. We're scared people might bash us up but you're nice! LOL!

20 Jul 10, 11:00
TSS>>Rina: Yeah, Hope she'll be fine. It's sad, eh? Life Ohh Life! Got to stick through positivity!

20 Jul 10, 10:59
TSS>>Sue: Hey we've replied to the email. Check it out! Hope it will atleast make you smile and lighten the burden.

HAVE A GOOD HAPPY STRAWBERRY DAY!

I look so good without you!

2010-07-16T12:12:00.004+08:00

It's so hard to let go of yesterday memories. And even after 2 years, you still refuse to go and commit for a new relationship because somewhere somehow over the rainbow, you secretly still have feelings towards the ex.

You secretly have hopes that the 2 of you could be together as one again. And hope that the ex have changed for the better. You pretended not to pay any attention towards the ex but secretly each time you log in to any social networking sites, you still do check the ex profile out and keep yourself updated with the ex current activity.

You will feel stupid for doing so for a while but will keep checking the ex out secretly because you miss the ex. And when you saw the ex current status with a new partner, you secretly felt disappointed and decided to move on. you try to get over it and keep yourself occupied with many errands so you can put the ex away from the mind. coz the ex finally moved on and you're not.

hence, one fine day, you receive a notification! you get so nervous and excited when you saw the ex's name! you slap yourself thrice, hoping that it was not a dream. you have been secretly waiting for this day to happen. the day where the ex say at least "hi, how are you doin? Whatcha doing?". It was real. You decided to accept the request.

You then think twice, should you even reply his PM. If you don't, you might miss the chance of not contacting the ex again. And if you did, what will happen next. You decided to take the risk and then the both of you started to contact and communicate back again. You have doubts coz you finally get to see the ex's full access profile after adding. You decided to say this to yourself, "You never change. You are still the same..." But this time, you were strong. You ensure that no feelings get attached. the both of you are just friends.

The ex asked you out for a random outing together. The ex look very keen this time. Then, you both met. In between the journey, the ex brought back sweet memories the both of you spend together. Even before the date, the ex gave you many missed call. While sms-ing each other, the ex keep bringing back the old memories together. You try not to get affected coz the ex is such a sweet talker. But somehow deep inside, you are happy for once that the ex is sitting next to you now. Coz you miss the ex so much.

The ex decided to borrow your iphone to check their facebook account using the browser. The both of you enjoyed every second that day. It's a good day of catching up after years of not meeting each other.

The day after, you accidentally go to your safari. the browser was on a facebook inbox (messages) page. thinking that it was your account, you went scrolling the interface. then you wonder, "since when do i have many messages from all these people???". OH NO! It was the ex's account. You shouldn't be doing this, you thought. But then again, sometimes, it's better to know the truth now than later. And its better to figure out things on your own with your own eyes than to know from others.

There's many flirtatious messages going out with ladies and there is even a serious conversation going on in related with the ex last ex gf. you felt bad. you felt so down. for all the times, you thought the ex is someone new now. for all the times when the ex was trying to get your attention back again, the ex was actually doing the same thing to other victims too.

You told the ex you don't want to be in contact again for some reason. The ex get irritated and blame others for influencing you. The ex didn't know the truth that you've found out. Let it just be between you and God. it hurts.

so you thought you were special in the ex's eyes. all the years you waited go down the drain. You finally know the answer. Goodbye, ex im over you. You moved on and is happpy with life now. Even more happier to not thinking about him. In fact, you finally realise that you look and is doing so much better without the ex. :)

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Based on a true story.

Credits to an anonymous lady who wants to share her experience here.

Sharing our joy with you all.

2010-07-10T12:12:00.007+08:00

GOOD (not so!) MORNING, EVERYONE!

We've always share our sadness and joy together.

And so we thought,

Why not share our joy with all of you?

Hope all of you will smile along with all of us like you all always do.

Thank you, girls!

(Ooops, boys too!)

Thank you, Singlerette!

Thank you for being there.

I feel like we're sisters.

Or like a buddy.

Sharing everything together.

We hope we've been a good listening ears,

We're all not perfect,

But we hope,

We've atleast made you laugh a little or take the load off.

Why am I long winded?

HAAA, Shuttup Miss Atikah!

Words been lingering around,

And question asked which magazine we appeared in.

TADAAAA,

Suspend Suspend!

We all shy ah,

LOL!

First and foremost,

We should not forget this.

When we first realised about the Formspring we got from Kak Haryani,

We were suprised.

Okay blame us for being ineffiecient for not checking the mail.

Heee!

Of course, the 3 of us were surpised.

It's a pleasant suprise!

Thank you Kak Haryani for giving us the FUN!

Thanks to Kak Hasleen the editor.

Kak Maya for getting us pretty clothes.

Kak Sha for the make-up.

(I know I'm a kpo! I asked her alot of questions! And nak nose macam PIE-CTE eh?)

And of course, Hazami for handling us.

Abang Taufik for taking nice shots of us.

Like what Kak Hayani said,

"Pakcik Taufik Baitisah."

(Bukan Taufik Batisah but BAITISAH.)

LOL, She disturbed me cause you know my obsession with Taufik Batisah!

LOL!

We hope you had fun just as much as we had fun during the shoot.

The laughter and everything sweet.

Thanks for the experience, you all.

To all of you readers,

GO GET SUTRA!

It's a local malay magazine.

Hope you enjoy the read.

With Love,

The Surrendered (not so!) Singles.

Mission?

2010-07-09T14:47:00.005+08:00

"Make no apologies for following your heart. A woman on a mission needs no permission."
-quoted from The Single Women @ http://twitter.com/TheSingleWoman

What is your mission in life, singlerettes?

listen up.

2010-07-07T03:32:00.001+08:00

Brake or step on the engine?

2010-07-06T12:09:00.002+08:00

When the guy you like shrug you off,

Is it time to step on the engine

Or just brake and forget about it?

WONDERING?

The thin line between giving your best shot or being plain psychotic.

How do you know you're not pushing it too far?

How do I know that I'm not giving up too soon?

There's a narrow line to differentiate this 2, right?

Like we've always said,

We're not some expert so we're thinking as well.

I get this alot of time when it comes to relationship,

"Eh Atikah! Kau ni ignorant ah..."

(Atikah, You're ignorant)

And I get, "You're giving up too soon."

"Yes you can believe in jodoh (fate) but you need to put some effort too."

I think I've put my very best effort, errr...no.

Okay fine, I'm a coward like that.

But just know that everyone's level of giving varies.

For you, you might think what the other give is so small.

But to him/her it might mean alot.

Take an egoist like me,

It takes alot of courage to lower down this block of ego.

Even simple things like ILoveYou is big to me.

I don't just say it cause it's just a goddamn three words,

I say it only if I really mean it.

And it comes rarely.

Even I miss you is hard to let it out.

And I don't show my soft side.

So if I do,

Even a simple gesture is big.

I know it's not an excuse for an egoist to swim their way through.

I still need to put in effort in a relationship I want to work on,

But I'm just saying that...

Just cause you think the person you love is not giving you enough,

That does not mean him/her is not giving you the best he/she can offer.

Maybe his/her best is just inadequate for you.

So dump him?!

NO,

That's when I feel you should lower the expectation down.

Expectation kills.

Having it is good,

Atleast there's something to anticipate for,

But having it too high up the sky just kills.

I used to expect alot out of something,

But it only dissapoint you at the end of the day,

So why keep hoping?

Make it happen,

Don't always expect.

Why not you give in return?

Giving is Love.

Yes, Giving makes you feel better that receiving.

It's more fun than expecting and waiting.

Today, let's learnt to give.

And here's the question comes...

How far can we give?

If we give too much,

We might be taken as annoying, psychotic or in fact, BORING.

Have you ever met any girl/guy that gives too much?

And it irritate the hell out of your life?

And those that shower you with gifts everyday that it appear psychotic?

Or those that look needy and boring?

So what do you think?

When to stop and when to give up?

That's when the light buld lights!

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION!

How do we use it?

Chey, I'll go read about it and share.

Don't expect anything like Dr Love,

I'm a failure myself so join my club and let's have fun.

Who cares about perfect?

As long as we're happy,

Life flows people!

The picture perfect boyfriend.

2010-06-08T00:46:00.003+08:00

The picture perfect boyfriend.

What do I mean by picture perfect boyfriend?

It's the kind of guy that look so good that when you take a photo with him,

You just look so good together.

Or in fact, he over shadowed you cause he's just too good looking.

BLUERGH!

It's awesome to go out with good looking boys cause everyone will have their eyes on you,

Or should I say on him.

But the best part is when he's with you.

Or the even better part,

He hold you close.

(So atleast yu get a little limelight, LOL!)

*Imagine Taufik Batisah walking with me!*

Errgh, that will be a disaster cause I'll end up having makciks throwing stone at me.

Basically my point is,

Don't look for a picture perfect boyfriend.

Erm, okay I'm wrong...

You can have a picture perfect boyfriend but,

That's not the reason why you commit and decide to be together

cause looks brings you no where.

Girls, trust me on this.

During bad times,

You're not going to just stare at his face and make problems turns to rainbow.

There's more in him that makes the relationship works,

Not just the pretty eyes and killer smile.

Or the perfect abs and the to kill for arms.

What's the point of having a very hot boyfriend but he treat you like thrash.

I cannot deny that when I was younger,

I only date good looking boys.

YES, I'm that particular.

Even if he's an average,

He've got to have a high profile.

No, not like he's Zac Efron but atleast little things like..

He's a good soccer player in school.

He's the officer in NCC or just anything.

And he've got to be popular among the girls.

So that atleast I'll feel like I've achieved something.

Yes, I'm that dorky last time.

I don't think.

I'm a kid, sorry lah!

I'm not some professional counsellor (I don't even know whether I spell professional correctly!)

but every girls have girlfriends

coming to them to share boy-girl problems, no?

I have a few that contemplating between hot rude boys and nice fugly boys.

I say follow your heart.

I'm not on Team Ugly or Team Hot.

I say, what makes you happy.

Some people are happier with nasty good looking people,

And some choose to appreciate inner beauty.

SO FOLLOW YOUR HEART!

Yeah, some just love to be treat badly and acting like a dumb.

Okay, I sound unfair but cannot deny the fact some girls are STUPID!

Like to be fool and they find the thrill in it.

What makes you happy girls!

(Sarcasm language above.)

I'm going to sound so cliche,

I choose Fugly Nice Boys!

(Not damn fugly but atleast when I see him, he's adorable in my eyes)

Now...Now...You'll say...Argh Miss Atikah damn macam Miss Universe answer!

Wait till you date some nasty hot boys then you'll realise how Buay Tahan thay can be.

And again, not all.

I'm saying some HOT BUT TEROK PERANGAI BOYS.

I'm not saying all good looking boys are bad.

Get that straight.

If I have boys complaining,

It's either you're stuck up enough to claim you're hot or you're just intellectually challenged.

B L U E K S!

(Don't be defensive, will you boys?)

I know I don't date that much, errm...no?

I don't know but most of the picture perfect boys are usually stuck up, self-centered, have more than one girl they cling on, they talk too much about themselve or they have unattractive personality...err, and they're BORING!

Okay now I sound judgemental and BLUERGH.

But someone got to say this,

And it happen to be me.

So yeah...something you can think about.

But isn't it fun when you go out with them and you have people saying,

"hey you're dating blah blah blah."

Bumped into someone at Causeways Point,

"Were you at Causeway Point, you're with your bf? He's cute!"

And blah blah blah...

What's the use of what people think when cause at the end of the day when you choose to commit with someone, it's just about the two of you.

If you're thinking about marriage or even a relationship,

That's when you two appreciate each other,

And not having some of your bitchy girlfriends to judge your the other half.

I'm going to sound like a loser and blame my self-esteem or it's really just the boys.

Usually very hot boys will make you feel that you're never good enough for them.

Like their skin is more flawless than yours.

They yack about the girls that chase after them and make you insecure

that you're going to be part of that psychotic fan club he has.

You simply do your best and not to be like the rest of the girls but end up feeling dissapointed.

You're being treated like thrash and yet will forgive him just

cause he got a killer smile that melts you.

Only date a hot guy if he makes you feel like a Princess.

No, not like you'll control him.

What I mean is that he'll treat you right.

We're not in kindergarten, so I'm hoping you'll understand what RIGHT means.

And most importantly,

He don't end you up with Makciks throwing stone at you.

Hah, ;D!

Who's the loser?

2010-06-06T17:53:00.002+08:00

This is taken on Zah'z Birthday Suprise.

(But this entry has nothing got to do with Birthdays, HEH!)

I'm going to break from the norm,

And I don't care if people think it's silly.

BLUERGH.

By now, you should know how silly we all can be.

So let's hang loose and celebrate life!

BE HAPPY.

What's my topic about today?

FALL FOR SOMEONE YOU USED TO DISLIKE VERY MUCH.

What I mean by this?

Okay take this example alright?

I guess many will encounter this:

(Example 01)

"Eee, look at that matrep! Dahlah cap floating then wear skinny jeans! Eeeyer!"

(Example 02)

Location: Wedding Banquet under the block.

"Ish, kau tengok lah mat naik moto yang tonggeng tu...pheewit pheewit kat aku! Pakai baju racing-racing, geli seh aku tengok!"

(Example 03)

Location: Youth Park

"Mak oooi, tengok lah tu mat hip hop..kental seh! Pakai seluar, nampak seluar dalam! Topi macam gitu abeh bling bling macam mak aku pakai emas beli from Golden Chance!"

(Example 04)

"Alamak, mat handsome-handsome sekali ada tattoo...What a turn off?!"

(Example 05)

"God, look at that guy! He's shorter than the girlfriend. I swear I will never date a guy shorter than me!"

(Example 06)

"Look at that guy. Freak?! Gamers seh...I'll go for soccer player but never a kental boy from IT Club. Eeeh, main flute pulak tu. Selenge seh!"

(Example 07)

"I will never date the typical mat motor lepak at Bedok Corner everr! Mat kereta baru ah, I loikeee!"

Have you atleast given out such comment just once in your life?

I can't deny, I do.

Not all of the ones listed above but I do atleast say one of the above.

Which one?

NOT TELLING.

No offence, boys.

Read on then you'll get me.

Have you stereotype a guy before?

Like one good example:

EH Tengok ah tu mat KFC delivery gatal seh.

Then you realise one day, you met this very sweet guy.

Then you ask him,

"Oh awak kerja kat mane?"

He answered,

"Kita kerja as Mac Delivery Guy."

Okay MacDonalds and KFC is different but they're riders.

The one that goes "Pheewit!" when girls walked by the road.

SEEEEE, STEREOTYPE!

Not all delivery riders behave like that.

Erm, actually I can't deny...

I have such mindset as well.

Riders = Mat gatal!

Until one day, I met this guy.

I'm not saying he's all the perfect and he's the one for me.

You girls know me better.

But I think I like him...erm...slightly more than usual.

He's all the I-USED-TO-DON'T-LIKE.

(Or maybe, still is.)

I'm going to be open.

Cause if I end up with him,

I need to accept him for who he is.

OMG, I so can't imagine...I SWEAR!

But Love...ergh, not that I really LOVE him now.

But I'm attracted in some weird way, that is.

Like you used to hate a certain kind of guy like...

Those mat motor that wear those racing shirt.

Or those skater boys with baggy pants or anything.

Then you end up falling for them.

How do you explain that?

You're like eating back your own words.

IT'S CRAZY, RIGHT?

God is teaching you a valuable lesson.

LEARN!

Sometimes, you've got to take time to appreciate someone.

Not label them and chuck them away.

And of course, never ever look down on people.

Cause you're not perfect either.

I hate it when malay girls go:

"Alah ITE Boys...bluergh! O Level pun cannot make it."

Yah, O level cannot make it but what if marriage/relationship he can MAKE IT?

Some OLevel CAN make it but respect girls TAK BOLEH MAKE IT!

Honestly, I can't stand some malay girls.

Especially the smarter ones.

NOT ALL but some.

What makes you think your degree can actually gurantee you a perfect lover?

So now, there's a course on Love Guru.

Degree on Relationship?

BLUERGH, Girls like this are the turn offs.

HUMBLE, get it?

Tu pasal sekarang yang pandai lagi banyak anak dara tua, no?

WOW, OUCH eh?

Think about it.

I can't deny sometimes,

I can't help but to condemn some boys until

I met someone recently and it open up my eyes.

There's more to it.

Don't shut your doors until you know someone better.

And never ever look down on people as if you own the world.

Cause you know what?

Life doesn't evolve around you.

If it is, why are you still single now?

And don't say things like..

"There's alot of guys that want me..!"

Yeah, alot of guys that wants you...but can you hold a relationship?

PROVE TO ME!

Hold a happy healthy relationship, that is.

It's time to soul search, my dear.

And wait,

To those that goes for Boyfriend cum Transportation Assistance,

Please call 1900-SBS-BOSS.

If you're out to deceive boys,

Might as well go to the fullest extend, no?

Come on, girls.

I'm being sarcastic over there!

Think about it.

Don't judge people's worth until you know you're good enough.

It could be that...You're the loser.

Quotes to share :)

2010-06-01T13:49:00.001+08:00

“ Everyone’s heartbroken nowadays, but I mean, we all just gotta move on. What’s the point of reminiscing when you know the person is no longer worth while; when they’re no longer who they used to be? When their heart is somewhere else? Do you think they still care for you, still sit there thinking about you? Because frankly, they don’t. ”

extracted from http://idareyoutoclickthis.tumblr.com/page/4

hope everyone is doing well!

2010-05-20T11:40:00.000+08:00

This is why i is single..

2010-05-10T11:48:00.001+08:00

I found this online! So hilarious! hahahaha!!!

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THIS IS WHY I'M SINGLE:

Location: mall

Spotted: surfer hottie

Interruption: vibrating phone

*flips phone open*

Whoops! 3 voicemails; 5 text messages; 13 missed calls.

From: Mom

This is why I’m single.

_________________________

LOL!

Hiiiieeeee everyone!

2010-05-03T13:53:00.001+08:00

Hey all singlerettes of the world! Oh God this blog is damn dusty right? Pardon our busy-ness.

Well, i don't really know how to start. Well, okay here i go!

"OH GOD! OMG!

ARE YOU SURE KIN?

WHAT? U MUST BE KIDDING KIN?!

IS THIS A JOKE?

I'M NOT SURE ABOUT THIS NEWS KIN!

HEY ARE YOU OKAY??"

Yes.. that's the kind of remarks i get when my status at facebook officially change to in a relationship with Reveredd Syamil. Hahahaha.. I have like 21 likes to that activity (at the moment) and a wall post flooded with comments and well wishes. hahahaha.. amazing right? Yes, for real. I ain't single no more. But its pretty funny, i don't expect ppl dropping by and even text and congratulating me for this. But seriously, i appreciate it. Thank you! Hahahaa. Like woah! I have sooooo many people who are happy for me! Like WOAH seriously, it was an overwhelming response. hahahahaha!

I didn't notice how single-minded i was all this while until ppl thought i was even joking about it. I guess i was too independent that they got that perception that i don't need a partner to be with? ahaha.. and maybe becoz all this while, i don't really give a damn about this. I have this DON'T APPROACH ME OR I WILL KILL YOU kind of face. But this guy, was daring enough to be my friend. He break my chain. I don't know how to describe. Let's just say, there's a presence of chemistry, physics, history, geography and music in us.

So yes, im no single no more. After soooooooo many years being single, i realise that being in a relationship wasn't that bad though. I feel loved. But well, it's too early to say anything too. Honeymoon period is always the best right. After that, shipwreck? hahaha.. so sorry lah. I've been single for so long. So my mindset is still adapting to the new world of being in a relationship! hahaha!!

Actually i have a lot in mind right now. But im not sure of sharing anything here. Surrendered singles blog should always remain as positive as it is! I don't wanna spoil the entry with a sad and teary entry.

But yeah here's something i wanna share.. Well, I was hold back and that stops me from believing in relationship. I've hated the commitments coz i'm always busy with work. I used to believe in term of "loving you in silence.." But it's heartbreaking. I learn to let go after I did something daring that i should have asked years ago. But it's better to be late than never. Hence, i was given an option to choose. And there's a famous quote saying, "Never Make Someone a Priority, When all you are to them is an Option". It was indeed a wake up call after i find out the truth and only truth. I open up myself to a new found love. Amazingly, i didn't ask myself if i'm unsure or not. I was so sure and no, nothing or no one rush or even pressure me to decide.

Believe(positively) is the keyword that i cling onto when i face this kind of situation. I did not put on hopes. Coz i know one fine day, having high hopes will just let me fall back on my face again. I took it slow and steadily.. I give it a thought. I mean, many thoughts. Why should i let myself be an option to others when there's someone out there who wants me to be their only exception. Right? I must give others and myself a chance to start believing..

I spend my time alone like i always do before i decided to give it a go. I asked myself. What do i want in life? Why should i just be a stupid girl and let fate decide without doing the right things and putting in effort to work things out for the better? Playing hard to get? Ohhh not to much ladies, you are so gonna regret playing hard to get with your egos up high. Yes, we all are a career minded woman, but think about it. One fine day, all we need is love and companion that can last us for a lifetime.. well, i have no idea what is ahead of me after getting attached. well, its a relationship im talking about. i should be getting a lil serious towards it. this is no more high school or poly dating me out season anymore. hahaha!

Well, it all depend on each and everyone of us. know what you want and what you don't. never question urself if he's the one or not. we all plan, God decides. Let it happen naturally & sooon you'll find it magical and so hard to believe. think love. think happiness.

i know, not all surrendered singles are selfish. But let's loosen up a little. Don't be hopeful, don't be too serious, don't be too negative. We are all human. Imperfect humans with many mistakes. Give others a chance, give yourself a chance.

AND NO, IM NOT LEAVING surrendered singles. haha.. im not married! so i'm still single by law. Hahaa.. i will always maintain this blog like i've always do. and i will always pray for the best for each and everyone of us.

wish me luck! ;)

Talk to us. :)

2010-05-03T12:03:00.002+08:00

Tell us why do you think you're still a single...

Begin you sentence with:

"I'm single because..."

Open the heart, mind and soul.

2010-04-27T06:14:00.001+08:00

Ladies! Don't let the last man, ruin it for the next man. ♥

LET'S CELEBRATE BEAUTY!

2010-04-21T14:47:00.004+08:00

First and foremost,

Dearest Kikin...I can't find photos of three of us.

This is an outdated photos,

SO YEAH...Publish only lor!

What's with the update this time round?

NO! NO!

No cursing of exbfs, Dear!

LET'S CELEBRATE BEAUTY!

Who's beauty?

OUR BEAUTY, GIRLS!

Everyone of us are a beauty.

And we're special?

Wipe those tears, my dear.

You're beautiful.

Don't waste that beauty on tears.

Go out there and flaunt it.

It's okay if his new gf is hot.

It's fine if he's dating Siti Nurhaliza,

It's alright cause you need to know that you're a beauty of your own as well.

There's something about you that some other girls don't have.

And no point comparing cause it's a waste of time.

When you take 1 minute to compare,

You're wasting 60 seconds of your time not loving yourself.

SO I WANT ALL YOU GIRLS TO NOTE DOWN THIS:

10 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT MYSELF!

Yeah, go on...

STARTS NOW!

Share it with us if you want to.

There's a tagboard.

Just click click,

And we're on your service.

You know we love you.

With Love,

Icka.

If words can kill..

2010-04-13T12:14:00.003+08:00

I found this online IF WORSCANKILL:

http://ifwordscankill.tumblr.com/post/148660471

"Being chased feels good. Being hard-to-get feels good. But what if you’re the one chasing? What if you’re the one trying and still not getting what you want? It doesn’t feel any good, does it?"

Nice???

Quotes to share :)

2010-04-12T17:09:00.002+08:00

"It makes me sad when people tell me that they have given up on love. And it’s always because they think love has hurt them when in actuality, it was a person, a thing, a wrong decision, a bad mistake, or an accident. So don’t let go of love - hold on, because it’ll always be worth your while."

-Runawaytrain (http://runawaytrain.tumblr.com/post/373517317/it-makes-me-sad-when-people-tell-me-that-they-have)

Oh my god! We've grown!

2010-04-06T18:17:00.002+08:00

Look how much we've grown...
(God, I've said this a million times!)

This was taken like, what?
I totally can't remember!
Please enlighten me.

What matter most is we've grown.
I hope our readers have grown as well.

Blowin' some warmth kisses!

Girls should we do this again?

I'm bored. I feel like blogging. Hehee..

2010-04-06T16:40:00.012+08:00

Rejected and Rejection.

So which one are you? The one who will always get rejected or the one who is so damn good at rejecting? Still, that makes the both rejected and the rejecting one, a singlerette right? haha!

I think some people are so good at rejecting because they don't want to let history repeat itself. But don't be such a loser people.. Things happen. Shit happen. Even if you fail, you will just have to get back up. Stop rejecting and open up to opportunities in life. Or are you rejecting because you can't seem to let go of your ex lover? Hmmm.. that's tough i must say.. but at the end of the day, you can't be rejecting anyone just because you are still stuck with your ex lover who doesn't even seem to care.. don't waste your time.. when you reject, you might missed the one who is just right for you! But i believe, everyone will have their own reason to this. im just sharing my opinion. hehehe peace no war! Or are you rejecting because you have no confident? low self-esteem? Its okay, take ur time. That i understand..

To the one who will always kena reject. Damn, i feel you. LOL! No, don't ever lose hope. Do a self reflect. Don't blame yourself for the things you are not good at. True love is all about accepting each other flaws. If he/she reject you for the way you are- lazy, stupid, too many boy/girl friends, always lepak, dunno how to cook, shy, tomboy, ugly, short, fat or watver is bad to you, work things out for the better. If it's the attitude problem, deal it with yourself. Love yourself before you could love others. I know sometimes it's very demoralizing for someone to be rejected. But then here comes the magic word, life goes on.. but again, it depends on different individuality. He/she may have her own reason to why he/she rejects you. take it lightly. i know it might affect you badly, but things will get better sooner :)

I still remember when the 3 of us were sharing our stories like in 2007 i guess? yess 2007.. we called each other the rejected. hahahaha.. i was dumped dats y! lol! but i noe it was my bad. i deserve it lah.. haiz, always kena reject. hahaha.. those were the days.. such an emotional girl. i was.. i think most of us were after break ups. i don't even wish to remember those days.. things happen for a reason right?

and just a reminder.. don't stay single for toooo long. it's unhealthy. im not telling you to go and get yourself a boy/girl friend now. but seriously, i saw a couple of people who is still single in their 40s. they are too independent, being able to stand on their own feet, so they are so the very arrogant! they are happy with their good job and friends and all, but the attitude ahh one kind.. i duno how to explain, but for example ah, their PMS level and tolerance level is bad. they are nice people, very thoughtful and all but i guess its very depressing when one gets lonely.

Okay that's just my opinion. It's all about fate & believing in faith right? Sometimes, one is better off single than being in a relationship which is full of shits. so yeah.. take it or leave it.

My opinion, im still not ready to leave my singlehood life just yet. Im happy with the way i am. Looking at the people around me, it makes me so hard to believe and trust. I don't even know what's real and what's not.

And of course, fear NOT of the word reject!!!!

And last but not least, being single is not bad afterall. And that's why we are here for you :)

Let's be happy-happy strawberry!

despite being rejected or being too good at rejecting.

NO FEAR! Just stay the way you are

and work things out for the better!

:)

Let's go fishing, no?

2010-04-05T14:22:00.003+08:00

Yes, there are alot of fishes in the sea
but I think there's a hole in my net.

(LOL!)

I'll be over you (!!!)

2010-03-29T18:27:00.000+08:00

HOLA BACK AT US!

2010-03-17T21:50:00.004+08:00

How are you, Singlerette?

Do somethin' new today, Dear Singles!

I just did and I'm so proud of myself.

Fear no evil cause if you're sincere, it will glow.

You'll be fine.

Don't let hatred overrule you life.

I know you hear this all the time.

But just a reminder just in case you forget.

Sometimes, it ouch-ed a little but please don't be too sad.

Learn to smile and be happy.

BIG HUG, SINGLERETTE!

It's been awhile since we all had a chat, right?

OH YES,

ATTENTION!

Will you all be interested for a Singlerette Sugar High Party?

Just a small gathering for all of us.

To get together and have some girly fun.

Sorry, boys!

Errm, or should we include the boys?

We're planning for somethin'...maybe...

But we just want to see if you all are interested.

Do scream to us through the tagboard, yes?

WE LOVE YOU ALL!

Honestly, I'm heartbroken now.

I think I'm not human, I don't feel the pain.

LOL!

Singlerette,

If you're down because of a heartbreak,

CONGRATS!

YOU'RE HUMAN!

YOU'RE NORMAL!

If you're still single with no boyfriend.

DAMN, You'll score one fine day.

Trust me.

But if still can't hook up,

Oh give up,

Just enjoy the moment.

;)

Eh wait,

This is very random,

Don't you think attractive people are nice to have on earth?

Cause everytime we see good lookin' people,

It cheer us up!

I was sad minutes ago while @ town,

Then a good lookin' hunky boy smile at me..

I GO: OOOOOHHH LAAA LAAA!

From sad heartbroken girl,

I'm a hype up little lady.

Nyehk.

Be contented with the simple joy and you'll be a happier person.

Happy Birthday Icka!!

2010-03-12T11:48:00.004+08:00

Happy Birthday ICKA!!!!!!!

Have faith!

2010-03-04T11:48:00.004+08:00

A friend of mine lost someone who brought her happiness that no one can ever replace. If i were her, i don't really know what should i do. He's in good hands now. May his soul rest in peace.

So you see, turning back to square 1 as a single is something that most of us don't ask for. some of us was dumped, some lost their loved ones forever due to accidents and many more. it's not a pity. i believe it's an obstacle in life that one must go through coz it's fated to be that way. but of course, don't leave everything to fate. Have faith, work for the things that you want in life that can benefit you for the afterlife too..

so why not, take the opportunity now to tell someone that you love, like or care that you appreciate them and thank them for all the good times that you once had together. life is too short for hatred, jealousy and unhappiness.

and yeah i found something online. something interesting for ya'll to read:

and of course, don't forget that things happen for a reason. And, don't frown! You might never know someone out there is falling in love with your smile from far. happy thursday everyone!

Find them!

2010-02-17T14:03:00.002+08:00

nothing will come by when you wait and do nothing, except for waiting for the bus lah. hahaha!

Vday, what?

2010-02-14T17:39:00.002+08:00

We're givin' you lots of love.

Do you smell love flyin' around?

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY, HONEYS!

Catch this!
It's so good, you'll thank me!

Now, Now...
Me & Zah was sitting down.
Zah told me about the tag at her blog.
A good suggestion.

If we were to do a get together, will you all be interested?

Everybody should be happy!

2010-02-13T08:32:00.005+08:00

When you're single,

And someone you're going out with whom you're expecting to commit dissapoint you...

Sometimes you do the unthinkable.

You party hard thinking that it can burn down the sadness.

You just go crazy.

You hooked up with other supposedly cuter guys,

But the pain is still there.

Everything about the new guy is just nothing as compared to the guy you're crazy about.

Eventhough you know if you ask a third party,

It's so obvious that in every aspect he's way better than your major crush.

When you're around this new guy,

Everything seems to remind you of him; the major crush.

Surrendered Singles is about making you singles be positive.

But I can't lie to you all,

Being single can be hurtful at times.

You'll feel lonely.

You know you deserve a guy to give you flowers on Vday but why isn't there anyone?

Is it because you're not attractive?

Is it because I'm just not special?

Is it because I have problems with myself?

IT'S SUCKY, ISN'T IT?

As much as I can be superficial and tell you to just smile, be happy!

It will only give you the temporary effect.

Maybe just maybe, you really have problems with yourself.

But LIKE DURH,

YOU ARE STILL SPECIAL & YOU'RE ATTRACTIVE!

...atleast to someone.

I mean it.

Now, what's my plan for Vday?

I DON'T WANT TO SEE COUPLES GETTING GIFTS & MAKING OUT!

LOL!

I know I'm strong and still attractive, LOL!

(Kiddin'!)

But I just can't make myself see all those.

Thus, I don't want to be self-denial and tell the world...

I'm strong and who cares about the world.

WTH!

I care about the world.

Especially the things in it.

I care that I need to stand beside a couple happily attached while I'm single.

And that does not mean I'm not happy but I feel less complete around this people.

LOL!

Which actually you're not,

You're just thinking too much!

Oh yes,

I'm planning to watch Valentine's Day: The Movie.

And I'll buy extra popcorns to throw to those couple.

Yes, especially those that's kissing and hugging.

LOL!

Make the snow effect,

More romantic...no?

So who's up for a date with me?

Throwing popcorn moment.

Or spoiling date time!

(Spoiling other's date, that is.)

LOL!

Other than that I'm planning to go Pulau Ubin.

I don't think there's an idiot celebrating Vday there.

Or if there is,

Let's get the dog to bite them.

LOL!

Oh come on,

Cheer up you people!

What's the point of getting envious?

Don't lie, secretly you do right?...BLUEKS!

For once, just be happy for those that's happy.

And the happiness will glow with you.

Trust me, being happy for someone else will indirectly make you happy as well.

TRY IT!

Just because you're date-less,

That does not mean you're not special nor you're less attractive than the rest.

It's just that luck and love haven't met you yet.

It's stuck somewhere up a tree or you forget to retrieve it from the mailbox.

And don't let situation take advantage of you.

Just because you want to feel "complete."

You just date out anyone even when you're not happy with it.

Giving chances to yourself and your date is okay,

But not let it overrun your life.

And worst still,

You're totally hating the thought of going out with that someone.

So what's the point?

Commiting in a relationship is not all about holding hands and kissing,

This I tell you if you have no idea.

HELLO, you crazy eh?

Yeah, sometimes life's unfair.

And it sucks to the core.

But learnt to deal with it...shall we?

And I don't want any of my girls to actually,

Just go out for the sake of feeling complete.

I want you girls to be happy.

Cause you deserve to be happy.

And you deserve to be with someone you trully love.

Girls, please don't be cheap.

Cause a girl with price worth more.

(The words says it all!)

And they're more attractive in all the right ways.

This part right here, I will elaborate another day.

;)

Oh well,

Enjoy Vday.

It's nothing.

To simplify this day,

It's just a day where they sell alot of flowers and you see couple show public affection.

Haiya, that's all!

;)

Singlerette,

Will you smile with me?

-HUGS-

helllllo thursday!

2010-02-11T16:02:00.004+08:00

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed; to those who still believe even though they’ve been betrayed; to those who still love even though they’ve been hurt before.”

But hey hey hey, no high hopes okay people? Later who can save you if you fell off from the cliff?
have a gooood long break okay!

Watch out, the single awareness day is just around the corner!! hahaha! Any plans? Well i do! i'm off for chalet with my family this Vday! hey, who says going out with your family is uncool? catching up session with them, karaoke-ing, swimming... well, when's the last time you hug your daddy or mummy saying how much you love them? its nvr too late to say i love you to anyone you love. especially the one who have been there supporting you ever since u're born.. ur grandmother, grandfather, ur aunty, ur uncle, ur cuzen etc.. let's cherish every moment!

Take care lovelies! Happy long weekend!!! let's treat everyday as if it's ur last day.

Haven't met you yet.

2010-02-08T21:15:00.002+08:00

You saw him.
You got stuck.
You've got this very good feeling about him when you first lay eyes on each other.

HE'S THE ONE.

Yes, the one.
That feeling of TADAAA!
Beam of lights appear from the back and hindustan song played on the background.
It feels so heavenly that you smile in your sleep.

Too good to be true.
Suddenly the only thing you remember after that is...

You're crying and got your heart broken.
Where's the positive vibe and the instinct that...
HE'S THE BLOODY ONE?

And this bitchy feeling of HE'S THE ONE keep coming time and again.
And, time and again you fail.
Got your heart broken.

So can you ever believe that HE'S-THE-ONE feeling is true?
Cause it's been deceiving you time and again.

So the next time that feelings pop up,
Can I trust this feeling?

You get scared and you hold back.

Basically, you can't stop trying.
Yes, Easy lah you want to say right?
Miss Icka, you don't ya ya papaya...
You also single and not experimenting so SHUT UP!

Hey, I do try okay.
A pat on the back for me.
Atleast now I'm more daring.
I learn to make friends eventhough the transition from friends to serious relationship I'm yet a dugong but I know I try and you should to.

Never let failure hold you back.

The reason to it is simply...
YOU HAVEN'T MET HIM YET.

Listen to the song above.
POSITIVE ENERGY FOR ALL OF YOU!

You'll fail too many time that sometimes you no longer trust your own gut.
But maybe God just have something else in store for you.
So stay positive, alright?

Okay, I won't have time to have karaoke session with all of you.

But let's all sing the song from Michael Buble together...
Pam...Pam..Pam!
Traalaaalaaa!

Good Guys!

2010-02-01T20:03:00.005+08:00

WHY GOOD GUYS A TURN OFF?

This is what I feel and I know some might not agree with me.

I've been meeting a few good guys.

Date some, ditch some.

That's life.

Deal with it.

Girls will complaint if they meet the wrong ones.

That's the nature of being a woman.

And we're not asking for a saint as well.

So basically,

Why I personally dislike good guys.

Not all are like this but most good guys love to over-impress.

Not that we, girls don't like it.

But when you give too much,

Girls find it B O R I N G.

When good guys always press the right button,

There's no thrill to the relationship.

It gets monotonous.

He wants to fetch the girl from work to home.

Hold her handbag for her.

Buy her sweet gifts.

Every little detail should be all perfect.

Girls need thrills.

She need to have some suprises along the way.

Something she don't expect to happen.

She also want to make an effort.

She also want the guy to sometime get angry with her, scold her.

Every girl like a man to control her a little.

Just a little.

Pull and let go.

Good guys always do things too perfect.

They're more like an assistant than a boyfriend material.

Girls need some thrill.

We need to feel jealous and knowing that the guy still love us.

Good guys always stays under the girl's armpit.

B O R I N G!

I never said it's a bad thing but it gets boring after awhile.

Some girls want some adventure.

Some rollercoaster ride.

If she always get what she wants,

And knowing that the guy willing to do everything for her...

She'll take things for granted.

She knows whatever she do,

The guy will always be there.

Thus, after awhile the feeling of: I can afford to lose him...will rise!

And then the girl will take things for granted.

Good guys should learn to inject some sense of urgency in the girl.

To let them know that you're always there but if she's taking things for granted,

She might lose you too.

Need to show signal to the girl that I'm not your slave.

I'm a man with an ego.

Respect and love work both ways.

Make her feel that she needs you.

And good guys should stop being too obvious.

Not asking you to play games.

But have some pride.

Don't let girls step on your head.

At the end of the day,

Girls will appreciate a leader.

A man that lead them.

No matter how feminist a woman is,

She still want someone to love her.

Someone as a HERO figure.

Someone that will lead her, protect her.

Good guys should stop impressing too much cause it can be a turn off.

Take a chill pill.

And what else eh, why I don't like good guys...

They're cheesy and corny sometimes!

Sometimes they watch too much movie and they apply it in real life.

A little of it is good but not too much.

Cause that will be too ERRGH!

And the secret to hooking a girl's heart is.

Give all you've got at one point of time,

Then pull it back.

Ignore her.

If you're meant to be,

She'll come looking for you.

Looking for more.

Cause she wants it.

She's hooked to it.

Remember, don't give too much until you think she's really worth it.

And you think she's a good investment.

For the intitial stage,

Take it slow.

The keypoint is...

MAKE YOURSELF ADDICTIVE.

And why an asshole usually get the best girls?
And girls will always contradict,
They don't want heartbreaker yet they yearn for this asshole.

Want to know why?
Because this asshole are good at making themselve addictive.
So even if they treat a girl badly,
The girl will still crave for this asshole.

Addiction is hard to resist, honey!

I guess that's it for now.

I hope this entry is of a help.

Egore, hope you read this.

PS: Not all good guys are like this but this is just what I think of some.

With Love,

Icka.

I'm in love with 2?

2010-02-01T19:50:00.002+08:00

ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH TWO?

So how do handle such feelings?
When you're in love with two guys!

Or you're interested with two guys?
Or two guys are chasing after you and you think you favour both of them.

Now wait,
Surrendered Singles don't support two timers and bitches.

So how to benefit in this situation and still not being called a BITCH?

The answer to it is...
DON'T GIVE HOPE TO BOTH PARTIES.
NO STRING ATTACHED.

Tell yourself it's the...
PROBATION PERIOD.

Go out with both boys as friend.
And have a long list of evaluations.
LOL!

Evaluate the boys.
PROS & CONS.

But before you start,
Write a note for yourself.
What you want for your future relationship?
What's your priorities and what you need.

And you don't need to tell the boys about their so called probation period.
So it will all be natural and sweet!
LOL!

At the end of the day,
THE ONE will give you that vibe.
You'll eventually knows it.

Happy Tryin'!

And most importantly,
Think about yourself.
Never ever use sympathy or anything else to be the factor you chose him over the other.

It's about YOU!

why is it soo hard to find nice guys

2010-01-20T11:13:00.006+08:00

Someone tag at the tagboard asking "why is it soo hard to find nice guys?" Thank you for tagging valentino! I will try my best to blog this topic out yeah!!

Hmm... nice guys..

Let's define nice guy: Nice means pleasant, agreeable, satisfactory, good natured, kind. and of course, a nice guy needs to be friendly, likable, agreeable, charming and compassionate to be classified into the category of nice guy. most importantly, a nice guy mustn't be hypocrite. That's a definition given my any any dictionary. With naked eye, sometimes we shud be able to tell who's nice or not at 1st impression according to his manner right?

And like mention or asked by many other girls, why is it so hard to find nice guys nowadays? Nice Guy VS Dream Guy is different. Let me emphasis on that 1st.

We shouldn't compare a NICE GUY to a DREAM GUY or PERFECT GUY.
Remember that okay!

1. Because they are all taken, dead, gay and if not they're underage.
A BIG SIGH TO ALL THE SINGLE LADIES. hahaha.. i think it's pretty bullshit if you said a nice guy is one in a million. just wait though, they some times don't last with who they are with. hahaha.. sometimes it makes sense though..

2. They are not hard to find! Perhaps you are looking in all the wrong places.
Us ladies, shouldn't limit themselves in widening their circle of friends. a nice guy is supposed to be understanding and have a sense of respect. They can be inside the library reading books or studying (LOL!!!).. nolahh.. they can be everywhere, in the arcade, market (tolong mak pegi pasar.. hahaha..), train, clubs, gigs, office anywhere lahh.. So ladies, i think what we should do is to learn to open your eyes!!! hahaha...

3. Many women tend to fall for the more out going and rough guys thinking that they might help (change) them.
I think its true lah.. stop denying. if you want an outgoing rough guys, then stop asking why you can't find a nice guy. coz u chose the rugged guys instead of the nice one. so be it. accept any guy for who he is. it's you decision you have make. don't complain. don't blame the nice guys for not coming to you when you are the one who choose the rugged ones. understand?

4. Basically, the nice guys are there---but we're not looking for "nice", we're looking for Prince Charming.
That's why i emphasis on the classification of guys. NICE vs DECENT vs MR RIGHT vs OUTGOING vs DREAM GUY vs PRINCE CHARMING are all different in many ways. Ladies, your standard is toooo high... or either tooo overboard or either not taken seriously.. Basically, we are all waiting for our handsome prince riding on his white horse (car or bike) and save us from all our everyday problems and worries when in reality the average guy next door is what we really need in our lives but we cant see him because of our fairy tale fantasies.

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above mention is just my opinion. im not blaming us ladies for the unforeseen of the presence of nice guys on earth. but here's some reality check too that no one is perfect. it takes 2 to clap.. and of course, for men, dun blame us ladies too. look around us.. i wonder what the world is turning to.. men abusing wife, men who's caught for sexually abused ladies, men who cheat on woman's money... it's all up to individual. if you want to make life easy, we shouldn't be the one creating the problem instead solving the solution.

A recipe to a healthy, happy and fruitful relationship sometimes doesn't come from a nice guy. it comes from the heart of individuality who wanna work things out for peace and harmony. Get that?

Just my opinion! Have a happy wednesday everyone!!!

When you believe...

2010-01-11T17:53:00.005+08:00

Love lost is still love. It takes a different form, that’s all. You can’t see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it. Life has to end. Love doesn’t.

-MITCH ALBOM

Hellooo Wednesday!

2010-01-06T13:21:00.004+08:00

Hie everyone! How's everything going? Ready to rock the new year 2010?

Or still waiting endlessly for your prince/princess? ohh wait... are you still unsure whether should you move on or should you just give him/her another chance? or wait, is he/she seeing another girl/guy behind ur back??? hmmm.. are you always unsure? then we will always be here for you to be a listening ear.

despite the busy bee state we are all in, we will get back to you asap. It's not good to keep everything to urself! sometimes it helps to burden off whatever kept and is disturbing your mind when you talk to your close ones.

so quotes of the day, i got this from love thoughts tweet. it says:

"If you aim at nothing, you'll hit it every time." ~ Unknown

i think its true. nothing will happen if you just wait and do nothing. happy wednesday everyone.
more interesting topics will be cover soon in this blog! in the meantime, do drop us any email if you have anything to share or tag us yeah! :)

happy new year!

2009-12-22T16:36:00.003+08:00

We would like to apologise for not updating regularly.

We will update soooon when we are free from work yeah?

Have a merrylicious jolly christmas and a happy new year!

From us, the mermaids. hahahahhaha!!!

Happy!

2009-11-30T15:47:00.003+08:00

want to be happy? only you can help yourself to be and stay happy. you should choose to be happy. and even if it takes a million or thousand problems along the way to the road of happiness, hold on strong. everyone can be happy. even when you fake a smile, a smile can bring happiness to others and not yours. so yeah! be cool, funky always. ohh and happy too!

just dropping by, sorry girls. and thnks icka for updating. im super busy to even think about loneliness, sad things or even love! hahahaha..

stay happy singlerettes!!

24 hours without boyfriend!

2009-11-27T21:09:00.005+08:00

How to get 24 hours of awesome-ness even without a boyfriend!

It depends on your age group, yeah?

If you're 12 and you can't afford it,

I'M SORRY!

Rule of the game,

GET THAT BOY OUT OF THE MIND FIRST!

NUMBER 1:

Gather all your girls.

Save up cash.

Book a chalet or hotel room.

SLUMBER NIGHT.

Play dress up.

Never forget to record all this down in camera.

NUMBER 2:

Go ingredient shopping.

Get you girlfriends to wear baju butterfly.

Cook or bake.

Then bring along all your guyfriends to try it.

Or just anyone!

NUMBER 3:

Think of a theme.

Wear something really pretty.

A night to feel so gorgeous.

As though you're going to prom.

Get one friend to drive.

PARTY!

Or just parade yourself out in Singapura.

Laugh! Laugh!

And don't forget to have fun!

NUMBER 4:

Sharing session.

But only share sweet thing.

Everyone is prohibited to talk about boys.

Atleast not the hearbreaking parts.

Make a scrapbook.

Cut Cut, Paste Paste.

Or Bling your phone.

Go to Arab Street to get the diamonte.

Then stick it! Stick it!

NUMBER 5:

Go for a hike.

Camping.

Gather all the girls and go to Bukit Timah Nature Reserve.

You can lose weight as well.

When you reach the top,

Have a sweaty picnic.

And camwhore?

NUMBER 6:

Feeling-feeling you're a host of a makan show.

Go to all the famous makan place in Singapore.

Try the food.

And take photos.

Make your own video/ magazine with photos.

10 years down the road,

When you flip it back.

Trust me, you'll smile.

NUMBER 7:

Save up with all your girls.

Go fine dining in some posh restaurant.

Or cable car/ Singapore Flyers.

Not only couple can go there.

NUMBER 8:

GO TRAVEL!

Party hard and find peace.

Do anything you want.

Or be someone else.

Whatever.

Just roll and jump!

Note to self:

In the process of doing this activity.

Never ever be reminded by boyfriends/crush/exbf/ whatever!

It's just you and your company.

If one of your company is someone you don't favour.

KICK THEM OUT!

OR DISTRACT YOURSELF,

GET TO KNOW THEM BETTER!

You'll never know he/she is a potential bf/gf!

Nah, maybe you can be good friends.

HA! HA! HA!

Ohhh, one thing for sure.

Don't forget to pack alot of joy along and have fun!

You deserve it.

What else can you do this holiday?

...Even without a boyfriend.

BLUERGH.

I can do so much, trust me!

You're in love?

2009-11-27T20:59:00.002+08:00

Any of my single ladies in love now?

If you are,

CONGRATULATION!

No hurry, take it one step at a time.

Enjoy the process.

Sip it in bit by bit.

And don't forget to smile.

Sometimes you get a little scared but it's okay,

Continue walking.

You've got to take a little risk sometimes.

You know we're all behind you.

You'll be fine.

With Love, US.

Let's play advisor.

2009-11-27T20:48:00.004+08:00

One of our fellow Singlerettes need help.

Read on to understand her situation.

Female Lead: College Student
Male Character: A student taking a private degree

How they met: Tagged.com

Problem in relationship:
-She has been the one forking out money for their dates. (He didn’t ask for it but guys need initiative, agree?)
-He always seek her to miss call his handphone if they want to meet (Reason being HP low prepaid)
-She has been the one always looking for him instead of him looking for her.
-Called his home but his family member will treat her rudely.
-Wanted a break-up but boyfriend says,” you always think nonsense,slalu fikir negative..I love you alot n want to be with u.."

Writer’s concern:
-Have he been using her?
-What she’s supposed to do next?

So any advise or piece of mind to share?

You can comment through the tagboard or click below.
*You can leave a longer comment below the Poll Result.

When to say NO and leave...

2009-11-19T16:46:00.005+08:00

Don't be a slave to the things you crave. ♥

When you love someone too much,
Sometimes you're blinded.

You got totally blinded you forget where's the limit.
Which is right and wrong.
What's certain things that you can't afford to sacrifice and what you can still accept.

Sometimes it comes to a point that you think and obsess too much on that girl/boy of your "dream",
You forget where's your place in the relationship...

That's when you've got to stop and think.

PAUSE & SLOW DOWN THE WHOLE PROCESS.
In a relationship,
I feel that everyone have a place.
It's not like Twitter where one is a follower and another one is the writer.

The writer writes and the follower follow blindly.

Relationship is like Facebook where one user can super poke another user and there's also a button for another user to poke back.

It require two human being to handle the relationship.

It's never a one sided thing.

WHEN TO SAY NO & LEAVE...?

Relationship is based on Love.

But it will not only need Love alone.

When to say NO to the relationship and leave.

(1) Being unfaithful.

Be it he make out or only kiss another girl behind your back or even sleep around with another woman. That's consider a NO NO! You can take the risk to give him another chance but if it happen too many times, it's time to find someone more deserving. Someone that only want and need you. You don't want to worry too much in the relationship. TRUST. If it's lacking, time to leave.

(2) Whacked you.

If he decide to just touch you even a slight slap. TIME TO BLOW HIM GOODBYE KISSES. Maybe you can try anger management class or things along that way but if you've done your part and he still treat you like a punching bag. Trust me, he'll never stop. So you've got to be courageous and close doors on him.

(3) Walking Bank.

Yes, this is the most frequent problem. When guys treat you as their credit card or someone they seek financial help from. Once awhile, its okay. But you need to draw the line between you as a banker or you as the girl that goes through thick and thin with him. If if comes to a point that he's a financial burden and he's treating you like his loanshark. It's time to move along. NOT WORTH IT! You don't want to marry a guy that will steal you future children piggy bank, right?

(4) Sex machine.

I shall not sound too narrow minded here and neither do I encourage pre-marital sex. You know which is wrong and right in our religion but if you were to practice pre-marital sex, do consider this. You're not a machine, if he's treating you as his sex slave. Requiring you to always have sex with him and sexually abuse you, it's time to gain all the courage and pride to really leave him. Relationship is not all based on sex. And when a guy force you to have sex with him, do me a favour kick his nuts for me! (Okay, I'm just being sarcastic!) But never allow a guy influence you to have sex with him. Don't be scared of his threats. It's you that make the decision. If he's all about sex, kick him good bye. tell him, you worth more than that.

(5) Fling.

I'm writing this for girls that's into long term relationship. Not those fling and scandalous stuff. So for girls that's looking for a long term commitment and if a guy treat you more than a friend. Like he hug you, hold your hand and what couples usually do but he said,"Hey! We're just casual friends." Ask him straight on his face,"What are we?" If he still claim that the both of you are friends, it's time to take a step back. Friends don't kiss. Me & Syikin don't go around groping and kissing each other. You need to draw the limit. Some guys use the term FRIENDSHIP to cover up for the word FLING. Innocent girls will get very ashamed by it and think it's okay for him to do all that afterall it's just friendship. Know your worth, my dear. A guy friend don't go around touching your ass and do those things. If he treat you as a friend, he need to know what's the meaning of respect. Unless you don't mind, I have no say. But if it's just an excuse from his side to touch you all over, give him the punch and label him a jerk. Thanks!

(6) Forceful.

When he don't treat you gently. He's forceful. Like he force you to perform oral sex on him or even force you to sell drugs. Get you to do the things you never wanted to. Even things like you're not allowed to go out with your friends. Or some guys even restrict girls from going out with FAMILY. That's over the limit. If you think it's wrong for a guy to be that controlling, it's time to gain alot of your strength and walk away. It's hard cause he's going to talk down on you or even abuse you but you need to share this with your loved ones and break away.

(7) Verbal abuse.

It comes to a point whereby he said you're never good enough because yada yada...like you're too ugly for him. He can find someone else that's prettier and better than you. He run you down and make you feel really bad about yourself. It comes to a point you think you'll never make it without him. Hey, YOU CAN! If he can find someone else better than you. Let him do so. For this cases, you'll feel that no one else will still want you. Trust me, there's someone that will appreciate you. Your boyfriend is just insecure himself. He need to bring you down to make himself feel better. What an ass! If he can't make you feel good, is that the kind of relationship you dream of?

It takes alot of courage to break away.

But always put yourself first.

SET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT.

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.

If there's one person on earth that you need to take care of,

IT'S YOURSELF.

Lastly, just a reminder:

Don't be a slave to things you crave.

I'm adding a poll to this entry.

Something new here!

And you can also leave very long comment as compared to those @ the tagboard.

What else do you think other than the point I've given above that's a wake up call for you to leave a relationship.

WE LOVE YOU GIRLS!

2009-11-19T12:33:00.001+08:00

On behalf of SS,

I just checked the mail.

There's letters and topics some of the girls wanted to share with.

Deepest apology cause we haven't been checking the mail for eon years!

HA! HA! HA!

Will get back to you girls soon!

And keep it coming in.

This is fun,

We girls are open to change and willing to share with each other.

Again, we're not pro.

But we'll try to play big sister and help each other out, yes?

With Love,

Icka & the girls.

Ideal, no more?

2009-11-16T18:17:00.002+08:00

Ladies, the ideal man doesn't sin,

doesn't foul up, doesn't cry,

doesn't make you cry &...

DOESN'T EXIST!

(HAHA!)

♥

-Atikah.

10 things the perfect one should have?

2009-11-16T18:16:00.001+08:00

SO HILARIOUS!

Number 2 sound like a weirdo but Number 7's cute.
(I'll laugh like mad, I promise)

Every guy will hurt you eventually,
You just need to choose which is worth the pain.

-Atikah

So who is he?

2009-11-16T18:15:00.001+08:00

REALLY?

-Atikah

Which dumb guy will make me fall...

2009-11-16T18:13:00.001+08:00

GIRLS MUST TRY:

Do you get Love Proposal way too many time it gets worthless?

Ask him,
Get me a bottle of fireflies, if it's really Love.

Hint Hint: Girls! if he made an effort to go to Selangor, Malaysia to get even 1 firefly for you.
DAMN, that guy is crazy.
(Now, you define your own CRAZY)
If he come out with some cheesy lines and excuses,
Do yourself a favour, STUFF WASABI UP HIS NOSTRIL.

Don't settle for anything but a FIREFLY!
( HAHA!)

GOOD LUCK BOYS, HAVE FUN GIRLS!

You'll know which dumb guy you really love from his reply, trust me.
Try it to all 101 guys.
If guys can have the same script, why can't we?

-Atikah

No one likes to be told. Give them time.

2009-11-11T11:41:00.005+08:00

if you have been following Taufik Batisah on twitter, you should have seen one his tweet that says,

taufikbatisah

the truth RT @RevRunWisdom: Ladies:::Never try to get with a man & try to change him... u cant!

So yes ladies... here's a word of advise, just like us, we don't like to be told to change to be either a soft demure lady in split seconds. or maybe we don't like to be told to stop wasting our money on unnecessary stuffs frm the retail therapy, right! just like men, we do have our ego too as well. and also just like us, men don't like the idea of you trying to change him.

well i believe, men will change when they think they want to. and changes doesnt take overnight. we can guide them but of course not to the extent of being too hopeful on them too much. just like anyone else, we can't force anyone to change (even if it's for the better). it's all up to individual, if they know what's right and wrong, or which path they want to lead.

so ladies, i have to agree with the quote above. never, ever try to get with a man and try to change him.. coz the fact is, we can't. we might be the reason for him to change, but we can't tell him to change!!

just like edward cullen.. u can't change him to a normal human being.. coz he's a vampire. and if u realise, when he met bella, he noes that he can't be with her but she accept him for who he is. and at the same time, he tried his best to be a real man when he's with her. he noes he can't change for the way he is, but he takes effort for the woman he love. so yeah.. hahahah.. my example merepek nak mampos.. but i hope we all get the drift. man will change, and they will but we can't tell them off to change! they should noe what they are doing.. coz they noe they might regret one fine day if they did not change, for the better. let them realise it themselves and you, be the guidance. :)

Happy Wednesday everyone!

2009-11-04T18:15:00.001+08:00

Note of the day!

Remember not to toy with anyone feelings coz it's unhealthy!

Because i'm worth it. Jz like Loreal.

2009-10-27T17:53:00.008+08:00

Helooo everyone! Hope the weekdays are doing just fine. It's only Tuesday, i noe. Well anyway, i'm here to share something interesting i found over at FB by my FB friend Sufina. Check this out. It says,

"If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she wont be amazing.

If she's worth it, you won't give up. If you give up, you're not worthy."

So yeah, happy working, schooling, slacking, shopping & bloghopping everyone!!!!!

You want a goldfish?

2009-10-22T18:40:00.004+08:00

As much as we deny it,

Girls will always want to impress the guy they like but if you fail too many times.

You've got to tell yourself,

I WANT A MAN THAT WILL LOVE ME FOR WHO I AM!

Loosen up and have fun, Honey! ♥

Boys are like fishes.
Girls are like fisherman.

Now, make your own theory out of my helping phrases.
THINK METAPHOR!
(:

You can't choose which guy to fall for you.

But you can try your luck with the bait.

Just like fishing,

You can't choose whether you want a shark or a dolphin to fish!

(I can't think of any other fishes so make do with this, okay? HAHK!)

But through the bait, you can some how determine which fish you'll hooked.

If you use a 1kg weight of meat as a bait,

Don't expect to get yourself a goldfish.

The meat too big for its mouth, agree?

I know nuts about fishing but you get the idea?

If you want a sporty guy,

You don't go to a drama class to hunt him, right?

Go to a gym, like DURH?!!

And then again,

Have you ever felt that you're never good enough?

You think you're too boring for a guy or you're not interesting enough.

You try to make yourself "FUN" to the extent that you sacrifice your PLUS POINTS.

And you fail to appreciate the moment.

Isn't it sucky?

Life's too short for fear and worries.

You don't live to feel that constantly.

Loosen up and have fun!

Don't forget this,

You will want someone that love you for who you are.

But then again, we girls can't stop thinking huh?

Maybe it's just us...

HAPPY DATING, SINGLERETTES!

Go out there and start fishing!

HAHAHA!

im drinking coke now! so refreshing!

2009-10-22T14:24:00.004+08:00

i found this line over at FB by one of my online friends. She said something like this,

"How long before he just picks up what he wants... and just disappears?"

It was interesting enough that it set me thinking about the statement above. Well... if you've been a victim of love, trust life a little. He might disappear and for real, he will never come back again. You might find it hard to forget.. well, the trick to forget is to not remember.. well its pretty tricky.. hahaha.. it makes no any sense.. but seriously, seasons change, everyday is a new day.. even if takes you a hundred years to forget him, just go ahead.. you'll get sick and tired of it one fine day and then will come to realise that life goes on! you got to! if he/she can disappear, why can't you? sometimes it might hurt a little, but the truth is, when someone disappear from your life, he/she is really not into you anymore. truth hurts, life sucks, but what to do.. let's just say that it's normal to meet the few wrong ones before you meet the right one! and just remember, things happen for a reason!!!!!!!!!!!! believe in fate and destiny. dun be a depressed single soul okays!

cheers to all!

You determine the next step.

2009-10-16T23:37:00.003+08:00

Dreams pursued or old habits continued?

The choice is yours, right now.

With Love,

Atikah.

Forgiving?

2009-10-15T01:41:00.001+08:00

When deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive.

Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future.

With Love,

Atikah.

Ever single transition.

2009-10-14T16:31:00.002+08:00

i found a very good article for everyone to read. Extracted from Cleo Magz May 2009. Read this! click on the image to enlarge and read!

What's Next??!!

2009-10-12T11:25:00.001+08:00

This is life.

2009-10-05T12:43:00.002+08:00

To say is easy, but to act is always a challenge. So i say, let's not accept defeat and let's face it. Take it with an open mind. Sometimes giving in and giving up does not mean failure. It depends on different circumstances. Let's move on!!!!!!!!!!! :) Hahaha.. macam senang gitu eh cakap.. all da best people!

i saw this quote somewhere.. it says:

"Because you are alive, everything is possible!"

Ketika Cinta Bertasbih

2009-09-29T22:35:00.005+08:00

Cinta adalah kekuatan yang mampu mengubah duri jadi mawar,
Mengubah cuka jadi anggur,
Mengubah sedih jadi riang
Mengubah amarah jadi ramah,
Mengubah musibah jadi muhibbah
Itulah cinta...

Sekalipun cintatelah ku uraikan
dan ku jelaskan panjang lebar,
Namun aku jadi malu pada keteranganku sendiri.

Meskipun lidahku telah mampu menguraikan,
Namun tanpa lidah,
Cinta ternyata lebih terang...
Sementara pena begitu tergesa-gesa menuliskannya..

Dalam menguraikan cinta,
Akal terbaring tak berdaya,
Bagaikan keldai terbaring dalam lumpur...

Cinta sendirilah yang menerangkan cinta dan perasaan.

I was truly amazed by those puisi written. Im sure u all will like it!

I was slammed down by emotions today.

But i manage to overcome it.

:) kinn

It's there, grab it!

2009-09-28T02:13:00.000+08:00

Don't give up.

2009-09-28T02:12:00.000+08:00

smart little girl?

2009-09-19T00:39:00.000+08:00

Kid's 1st Heartbreak.

2009-09-16T15:49:00.002+08:00

Lol! this is so hilarious!! so singles who are heartbroken, don't take it too hard. for at least, you don't get your heart broken when you are as young as him! hahahaa..!!!

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