20 years, 2 people.

love this movie.

love is not about dwelling when you are hopelessly waiting.

love is being sincere no matter how idiotic your partner is.

love is about breaking rules, set restrictions, but slowly breaking free.

love is all about patience.

love is so pure when one treasure and know the true meaning of it. even if its gona take you a hundred years of wait, risk every opportunity to say how much you love or miss someone, coz u'll never know you are not able to say that to them the next morning you woke up from your sleep.

Short Afternoon Drama

Boy: Well, she..

His Friend:You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?

Boy: I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?

His Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened..

.....

The End.

just sharing~

REMEMBER THATTTTTTTTTTT!

It's better to be single

BUT inspired

rather than committed

BUT confused.

:)

To be single is not a tragedy.

It is now becoming the trademark of a superwoman, whose eyes are focused on the highest rung of the corporate ladder. She walks tall in her self confidence and is warm, friendly and humorous.

;)

LOVE Him/ Her Just the way they are

When you get to know someone, all their physical characteristics starts to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That's why you can't really fall in love with beauty or looks. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and body, but not your heart. That is why when you really connect with a person, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.

Can You Date Your Gf's Ex?

Can You?

Yes. Yes, of course you can date the ex-partners of your friends. Of course you can. The question should really be, is it possible to keep your friend in the process.

We've all been there. We've all had friends with failed relationships. And as good as the friendship is, sometimes that ex is just too tasty or sexy to resist. We all know there is no cut and dry answer to this dilemma. Sometimes this is do-able. And sometimes it isn't.

But when you are seeing her ex, remember how it felt to be in her shoes. One of the worst things about being dumped is that stupid feeling. And worst, is when you didn't even come to ask her personally and have the decency to ask at least, "How are you coping. I hope you are well. I heard about it".

However, it's up to you though. But here are some point factors that may want to consider when you are seeing her ex.

1. Do not get dragged into and keep asking the guy of her failed relationship.
2. Do not compare.
3. And do not ever imply that you can succeed where she failed.
4. Don't play with fire if you yourself are already in a relationship with other guy and is seeing your gf's ex coz you are messed up.

But then again.. I do think it's possible to maintain your friendship while you go out with your gf's ex. As long as you do it with care.

blog entry inspired from: Veronica Hubpages

Give a little something.

#JustSharing!

Today I decide to give myself a chance,
I text a short sms to someone whom I think I should give it a shot with.
He's been there for awhile.
Years, in fact.
The last time I gave him a chance,
Or more to giving myself a chance, he almost express his love but a coward I am,
I shrug and change the topic.
I didn't feel the love but I know he's good for me.
He's all the good except that he's a little tad too cocky.
When man have everything, their confidence get a little overwhelming, you see.

But I know he got everything.

Physical: Body maut beb!
Career: I shall not go in details or people will find out who but it's awesome.
Character: I can talk to him and...

Okay now I know why it never worked out.
He got character issues,
Wait, I've got character problem as well!
LOL!
I'M SELFISH!

And so I decide to gamble my life away,
(Chey?!)
And text him!
I bet he thinks someone stole my phone and type all those.
Cause over years, I never text him first before.
Yes, I'm that an egoist!

We'll see how this goes.
Just thought of sharing with you girls.
Random things but why not?

Gotta be daring sometimes, you see!
Let's see how it goes.

You, girls should give yourself a chance as well.
Let someone in, not that I ask you to marry him.
But welcome someone in,
Make friends,
Share something.
Broaden up.
:)

I'M REJECTED, WHAT?

No one loves rejection!

But you can always learn to handle it better, sort of. HA!
What I mean by handling it better is that...
You do not be a freak and text your crush a million time or keep asking him or her why things happen the way it is.
And some might want to kill themselve due to rejection.
It's just how you handle it.

Honestly, I think I'm going through this phase right now.
Thus, the sharing.
Told you, Surrendered Singles blog make me feel like I'm not alone.
I always feel better after sharing it here.

Everyone goes through rejection.
Not only in the romance department,
Be it career, schooling or even circle of friends.
But today, I'll focus on BGR, yah?
BGR: Boy Girl Relationship.
Romance department, yes!

As a guy you've worked up all the courage to ask your crush out, and she declined you politely.
Or another case would be,
Everything goes well but after a meet up, he simply keep pushing you away.

How to tell if it's a rejection to get out of their life or it's just plain coincidental that things happen the way it is.

(1) Your Gut Feelings: I'm not saying you're a magician or some psychic but when you're in love, you usually paint all the pretty pictures. Maybe you should take time to slow down everything. Take a deep breath and think rationally, evaluate everything like you're the third person looking at the situation. And you know that gut feeling, sometime it tells the truth.

(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes:
Sometimes when you're in love, admit it...you turn into a freak. This little monster that never existed until you meet this one great guy/girl you've always wanted. WHY? But that's the thing, that always happen when you're in love. UGH! Maybe you should just take time to put yourself in the other party's shoe. Damn, I've got a very good example but I can say it or I'll be busted. HA! Cause then the guy will think, he's like an experiment which obviously he's not. But any oh how, let me think of another exmple. Okay maybe you're too pushy, keep asking him to go out with you. If you're him, you'll find it annoying too right? Or you keep pushing him with intrusive question, you might sound like a freak and scare the shit outta him.
Who knows?

(3) The "always busy" excuses: You know sometimes someone is really busy or it's just an excuse.
But I know some girls/guys still cling on to the excuses.
Sometimes we've got to learn to read in between the lines.
Some people just don't know how to tell you straight: I DON'T WANT TO GO OUT WITH YOU!
Take me as an example, I don't know how to say no.
I'm bad with rejection.
Thus, I always use busy as an excuse.
But this guy cling on to that excuse for years.
Since I'm in poly and up till now that I've switch job twice.
See, you need to read in between the lines.
Life always has its hidden meaning.
A is no longer A.
And B is no longer B, it can stand for Bitch or Baby.
Get it?
Me tryin' to be funny there, if you don't get it, I'm a loser!
Basically, some could really be busy and want so much to meet you but have not chance.
Or he/she is really not that into you.

(4) ASK!: Sometimes if everything else fail, look for help.
The next best thing will be your friends.
They'll help you out but don't take everything too hard cause they're not the guy/girl you like so human thinks differently.
If you need to know, you can always ask the guy/girl themselve.
Why not?
I know it takes alot of courage which I know I don't have.
But just get it over and done with.
But after knowing the truth, take it like an adult.
Do not get cranky and turn into a creepy freak.
Accept the fact and move along.
Take of of this example from one of our SS girls, she actually thought the guy she liked is avoiding her.
Thus, she thought maybe it's tim to move on.
He didn't contact her for almost a week.
Any normal human will think, maybe he's just not that into me.
Turning cold what, true?
But the two of us told her to call him.
ASK!
Then guess what?
HANDPHONE SPOIL!
So the both of them assume that the other party is not interested but the fact is,
handphone spoil.
See, sometimes assumption just kills.
But it could also be a tool to decipher hidden meanings and save you from further heartaches.
Use it wisely.
(5) Give it room and time to breath:
Love is about luck and perfect timing.
Maybe when you actually asked him or her out,
She's having an important project to do.
Or he's not having a good day.
Never rule out such cases.
I'm a negative,
I don't rule out such cases, that is.
I always take first rejection as a definite NO forever!
But I guess, I need to take time to let it breath.
Give more time to it.
You all should learn as well.
While writing this,
I learn as well.
Make me a little positive, that is.
I need it!
HA!

Any oh how, I hope this helps!
And you can drop us your comment below.
I haven't played around with it yet,
I hope I know how it works.
Thanks to Kinn for the help!
We just want to make the blog simple.
And thanks for the email.
Real sweet of all of you.
Thought Surrendered Singles are extinct.
If you still want to email us, here's the email...
surrendered_singles@live.com
Can follow us on twitter as well: Singlebabes.
Sorry if we're not that active cause everyone's busy with work.
But know that we're an avenue for you to rant and express anything.
We do not judge.
Cause you know what?
Everytime I read your email, I feel you so much.
Yesterday I read this email, I almost teared.
And I was smiling as well cause I'm so able to relate to her.
Eh same same, but I cannot be too open about it.
Cause guys might think if I date them,
I'm just using them as an experiment to write in Surrendered Singles.
And I'm also secretive like that.
But through emails, I'l like your sister and your bestfriend.
I'm more personal there.
Just sharing!
Hope you girls have a good weekends.

I know right now out there,
There's a girl being dumped and treated badly.
You know you have us.

Sparks and firework.

IS THERE FIREWORK OR SPARKS?

I'm just goin' to share my dating scenes.
Just for the fun of it, that is.
I thought I don't date that much,
It always freak me out going for a date.
Cause everytime before a date,
I always feel that I'm never good enough.
Not pretty, won't be as fun as what he wants and all the insecurities just popped like wild mushrooms by the road side.
Wah Wah... I use metaphor like writing composition back in sec sch! HA!

Honestly, I never enjoy dates!
I don't really go for dates but everytime when I say so,
I'll start thinking of the dates I go out to.
Eh quite a handful.
So let's share.
Pardon me if I sound like a weirdo but sharing is caring.
And one thing I love about Surrendered Singles is that,
I will never feel that I'm alone.
There's someone out there that feels me.

About dates,
I thank god cause I don't usually get awkward dates.
Cause I can just talk with anyone and whoever and I can just blend in.
That's my plus point.
No quiet boring dates for me.
But the problem with me is that,
I get too comfortable easily.
And it might just send the wrong signal.
Either he thinks it's easy to bed me or he thinks I'm treating him like just another guy friend.
And I don't know why I always have this problem and most guys I date will say this...
"I know uh, I'm just another guy friend."
Or is it a norm for all guys to say that?

And yes, I watch details when I date.
That's creepy uh?
I may make you feel comfortable to the extend you can be yourself, and I can make you tell me all your secrets.
Not that I'll take advantage of it but I'll take notice little details like your body language, your hidden expression.
And yes, the problem with me is that I have a checklist.
I tried to dump that away but I have it mentally written on my head: WRONG!
I don't judge but can't help it.
I quit playing games though, I think.

I used to think that from the first date, you can see if someone the one.
See, I watch too much movie?!
So everytime if I go out with a guy and there's no spark, I won't want to label him boyfriend material anymore.
I'll place him in the buddies rack.
Thinking of which, I think I'm the heartless bitch.
Honestly, not proud of it.

But in life, you'll meet this one person that will change everything.
And since then my dating scene simply change.
I met him, and he walked too fast.
Like literally too fast.
Considering he's hot, I thought hw didn't like me.
Not considering that he might be nervous and to think again now, yes he is.
And no, it's not a turn off.
It's cute.
My surrounding is fill with confident, calm and gentlemen so when I see things like this, I find it interesting and attractive.
I never expect perfect dates with candle lit dinner and all that,
I just expect fun, real fun.
And you being yourself.
And he's so nervous, he's just so cute.
But me with my self-esteem issue thinks he don't like me and he didn't click inctantly with me so I thought there's nothing about us to pursue.
And guess what?
He's that one guy I can't forget till today.
We've been in contact for almost 5 years now.
Don't ask me the drama behind it all.
But I know he left an impact.

I used to be so narrow minded and too fairytale.
Talking about spark and firework.
I guess you need to make time to know someone better.
No such thing as love at first sight and all.
There is, but not everyone has that kind of story, you see.
Love can build up after years as well.
That's what happen to me.
Sometimes you thought he's just another buddy, but one fine day it just light up.

Give time for love.

Surrendered Singles REUNITE!

Do you miss us? We miss you all, MORE!

We're back, yes!

I'm tryin' to post Avril Lavigne song: Stop Standing There.
But FAIL!

Basically, the song is about not knowing where the bond between a girl and a boy is heading.
Its like not knowing whether you're a friend or more than that.

I guess every girl get this kind problem.
You're too shy to express your feelings, no?

Personally, if I'm stuck in such situation, I'll wait for the guy to make the first move.
But I heard youngster these days so daring uh?
Chey, I talk as if I'm some old aunty.
But my generation, most of us so shy.

The other day I was at SCAPE.
Just love to go there cause I feel young.
This guy came over and ask me,
"Hey wanna join us, it's my friend's birthday?"
I was like, WHAT?!
Bloody hell this small kid, so daring uh please.
He can be like 5 to 6 years younger than me please.
Okay maybe I look young.
But so daring uh?

Then I decline nicely, awkwardly to a 17 year old.
How can I be intimidated by a 17 year old. I'm 23, HELLO!
Then he goes with his: Oh come on, just for him. It's his birthday.

WHAT?!
Daring uh?

Another story is about drugs.
Nowadays the youngster so "cool" uh?
Take drug and fell so WOW about it.
During my time, drug was OMG!
If you're a drug addict, my mum confirm chop don't allow me to be your friend.
And everyone will look at you in a weird way.
Oh wait, maybe it's cool for some other people.
I forget, I was a nerd back in school.
HA!

Basically, I'm just writing random thoughts.
Hope there's still people reading.
Oh I write not cause I want people to read, but I just want to share.
Surrendered Singles, REUNITE!
We, girls just had a good catchin' up session yesterday.
Want to sneak peak a photo?
HA!

good life.

"Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned

Mistake overturned
So I call it a lesson learned
My soul has returned
So I call it a lesson learned
Another lesson learned".

-Lesson Learned, Alicia Keys

single, not!

I was waiting for my boyfriend the other day at Somerset, then 2 guys came and approach me. I think they saw me standing at the control station for quite some time. and so maybe they also thought i was waiting for a friend. sooo... they approach me. and 1 of the guy asked my number for his friend.

Guy 1: Hello, my friend yang tu nak kenal-kenal boleh?

Me: (shock cum blur face but my face got maintain lah)

Guy 1: Boleh mintak number?

Me: hmmm huh? (still blur. ok fine, action blur)

Guy 1 to Guy 2: dia tak paham ah macam mane?

Me: (question mark face. i think he thinks i bisu)

Guy 2: takpelah.. (walk away membawa hati yg pasrah.. boleh gitu? hahahaha!)

Guy 1: Sorry yah (he said and smile at me and walk away with his friend)

Then i smile to myself. hahahaha! dah lama pe org tak approach and mintak number like that in public. well yeah even when i was single back then, no one lor do that to me. coz i think last time i super ignorant and i have the "Don't talk to me if you are a stranger. Don't even bother to smile at me" like that kind of face. but i swear, i am very friendly. now biler dah ade bf, baru ade org kat public mintak number eh. hahaa! ape sajelah. of coz i don't bother lah. i think the guys think im not malay lah. takkan dorg pikir im bisu kan?? hahaha!

it's like, bila takde org nak kenal-kenal, takde teros. bila ada, lepas satu-satu datang. i realise that it does not only happen to me. but to others too. notice the pattern anot? im not sure about any of you. but ya there will be a season of time, bila ada.. hahhhh lepas satu-satu dtg balek.

Anyways, what will you do if a guy ask for your number in public? What will you do??

#1: Pretend you dont hear anything and act blur (like dats what i did. hehh)

#2: entertain him and give him a fake number

#3: ask for his' instead

#4: give him ur email address/ fb instead

#5: say: sorry, but im actually waiting for my bf (i shud have said that!! hahaha!)

#6: give him an arrogant look and bolayan (not encouraged to do this eh girls. cannot lidat!)

#7: exchange. i mean, why not, u're just widening your circle of friend.

I duno mann. there's no right or wrong way to this. i mean, there's no harm making friends. but somehow, to me lah. if you're single, for the fun of it, ask for his fb instead. hahahaha! then the rest is up to you whether u want to add him and go on to the next stage of being his friend. it's all about the instinct? you might never noe, he might be the one ure looking for? jodoh tak kemana kan? hehee..

Happy Monday blues everyone!
Will try and update the blog more yeah!

xoxo,
kin

hold on tight!

"I guess, if anything, it’s about taking chances, even when you think you’re all out of chances. It’s about giving forgiveness and unconditional love, even when it seems like you should only do the opposite. It’s about trusting that God puts people in your life at certain times so that you can capitalize on the opportunity. It’s all about the possibility. It’s all about what you do with those possibilities. Life is short, but it moves so fast. Hang on and enjoy the ride. And when someone comes along with whom you enjoy spending the ride with; hold on tight."

- Samantha Mott

what are words

This song was on a repeat mode for the past few hours. Such a sad song based on a true life story of Chris Medina. I'm sure many of us already knew who he is now. Such an awesome man.

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

Anytime you whisper my name, you'll see

How every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

And I know an angel was sent just for me

And I know I'm meant to be where I am

And I'm gonna be

Standing right beside her tonight

And I'm gonna be by your side

I would never leave when she needs me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

And I'm gonna be here forever more

Every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

I'm forever keeping my angel close

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there are still many good guys around. girls, stop complaining or saying that u r giving up on love coz there's no more such guys in this world. okay maybe not a lot, but im sure there's always a soft spot in every guy's heart. and to have someone like Chris Medina in your life, is truly a blessing. His fiancee is the most luckiest lady in this world. indeed love is about accepting and sticking through each other's side come what may. and i know it's so hard to find. can't deny. but well, must never stop believing. :)

and this also apply to our daily life. always say what you mean, mean what you say. love is not always about the good times. and never leave someone when that's the moment of time when he/she need you the most.

anyway, happy working everyone!
much love,
kin.